(Closed) Night before the wedding: I want to stay together, FI does not…how resolve??

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 17
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We live together as well but are both getting hotel rooms with our side of the bridal party.  We both want to do this to build up anticipation and just have a little buit of tradition heh.  I can already imagine getting text messages from him throughout the night and the all through the next day (we are having an evening ceremony).  I think if you spend the night apart you will really enjoy that first moment seeing each other on your wedding day =).  But really it’s up to you two to discuss.

Post # 19
5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re spending the night together. I know it’s tradition not to, but we will need it to calm each other down! I think spending that night together will represent our entire relationship in that we’re more about what works for us that what is “normal.” 

I haven’t broken it to the parents, but hey, they’re all the way out in the suburbs anyway. 

Post # 20
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ugh, I have the same issue, only my fiancé doesn’t feel too strongly about it, so I think I can convince him.

I think that since we live together it would be weird to sleep apart…

Post # 22
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We have lived together for about a year now…and we aren’t going to stay together the night before…He will stay at the houe and I will stay with my sister/MOH at her hotel.  

Post # 23
1435 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

@flamingred:  Shoot I agree with that! I have two huskies and we love being in the bed without him!

Post # 24
625 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I hate it when we have to spend any long amount of time apart, but it’s always such a rush to see his face again! So personally, I’m really looking foward to seeing that happen on our wedding day. I think it’s gonna be really cool to spend the night apart & not see him the whooole day… and then all of a sudden see him all dressed up and standing at that alter!

Plus I know he’ll be texting & calling me allnight, so it’s not like we’l be APART apart… just apart enough to make him extra handsome when I see him again ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 25
9951 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We will be apart…

Plan is he’ll be staying in the condo, and I in a Hotel Room (maybe the same one as where we’ll spend our Wedding Night)

As an Encore Bride, I get the whole “anticipation / surprise” element that others are talking about.

It is nice to have the day to yourself pre-wedding for getting ready

And then building up the butterflies for when you first see each other at the Ceremony

Definitely takes you back to those first days in your relationship when you’d get all ga-ga at the prospect of seeing each other

Based on my first Wedding, there was NOTHING like the moment my Groom turned to see me… his jaw agape… or when we finally met up at the alter and he whispered to me “Wow, you are so beautiful”

That moment is priceless… and quite frankly I want it again this time round

So yes, surprise is the recipe for that to happen (Fiance will not see THE DRESS in any way shape or form prior to the Wedding either)


Post # 26
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

its bad luck to see your groom 24 hrs before the wedding

Post # 27
1675 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@FluffysMama:  24 hours? Who can make that work with the rehersal/rehersal dinner/decorating?

Post # 28
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yeah…. 24 hours seems impossible unless you had your rehearsal dinner at like 4pm and your wedding the next night at like 7pm?   Anyway, guess I’m going to have the worst luck ever!  We were only apart for like 2 hours while getting ready since we had to decorate all day before the wedding and I had to decorate my cake while he did all the tables and chairs and stuff.  

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