(Closed) Night before the wedding? Sleeping Arrangement?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Where did you/are you sleeping the night of your wedding?
    With Fiance : (50 votes)
    32 %
    Without Fiance : (104 votes)
    68 %
  • Post # 17
    94 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We live together but I wanted it to be very special as well, not just another day.  We rented a hotel room for my fiance’ and his son for the night before.  Our wedding was 5pm the following day and we did not see each other until I walked down the aisle.  It was awesome!!

    Post # 18
    8736 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’ll by staying with my Maid/Matron of Honor & 2 BMs the night before. He’ll be staying with his Bridesmaid or Best Man and a Groomsmen or two.

    Then the night of the wedding we will stay together in the honeymoon suite of a different hotel.

    Post # 19
    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My husband and I spent the night before our wedding together, he said it was the only way he would get any sleep, and nobody argued with us. ๐Ÿ™‚  It didn’t make seeing him at the end of that aile any less special and it didn’t deminish our marriage any.  If anything, it was nice to have a little extra time on our wedding day before all the crazines set in to share with each other.  After breakfast we went our separate ways to get ready, but I don’t regret spending the night before together at all.

    Post # 20
    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I stayed at my sister-in-law’s with my bridesmaids and a few other female friends the night before the wedding. He and his best man stayed with his parents, half an hour away. He had guy bonding/parent bonding time, I got to hang out with my closest girlfriends. It worked out well for both of us, but part of me wishes we would have stayed the night together. I sleep better with him, and I don’t think I would have woken up as jittery and nervous if he had been with me. Then again, maybe I would have. Who knows. 

    Post # 21
    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We won’t move in together until after the wedding, so we’ll do what we’ve done from the start–sleep in our own beds at our own homes. Seeing each other on the day of the wedding would be special regardless, but I do think following tradition makes it more fun and exciting. We’re kicking it old school all the way. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 22
    7172 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I don’t think it’s silly to want to sleep apart.  We didn’t see each other until the ceremony – I really wanted to see him in the morning (before getting ready) but it was also fun to play around with the not seeing each other component of the wedding.

    I think it builds anticipation and excitement to the already exciting day!

    Post # 23
    2090 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We slept together the night before, in our own bed (we already lived together). I don’t believe its bad luck to see the groom before the wedding, and neither of us sleep well without the other (and without our kitty, we’re all mushy like that).

    I’m so glad we did, because it was *really* nice to wake up the morning of the wedding after a good night’s sleep, and cuddle a bit and say “psst! We’re getting married today, can you believe it?!” and have a few sweet moments with each other before the day got ready.

    Also, on a practical level, all the hotels in the area were $250+ for the night, so it saved a good chunk of change too.

    Post # 24
    572 posts
    Busy bee

    We live together now (just bought a house) and we both decided that he would go to his mom’s the night before. He is the one insistant on not seeing eachother until I come down the aisle. In the end, I probably will prefer it that way too. ๐Ÿ™‚ Plus, I will most likely get dressed at home.

    Post # 25
    459 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We stayed in the same room. It sounds like you’d rather sleep apart and it seems like he has somewhere to go, so why not sleep apart the night before?

    Post # 26
    18628 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We stayed together in our own house.

    Post # 27
    100 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    My fiance and I are doing a destination wedding, and we’ve worked it out to spend the night before the wedding apart. He will bunk with his brother, and I’ll either have our room to myself, or have my mom come stay with me (we don’t have bridesmaids or groomsmen). For me, this was one tradition I could keep in a wedding full of non-traditional decisions. No bridal party, no bachelor/ette parties, no showers, no registry, no formal invitations, no guests other than family…so at least one nod to tradition makes me happy. ๐Ÿ™‚

    What’s really funny is that I have to avoid my dad as well the day of the wedding–he has been absolutely adamant that he not see me until it’s time to walk down the aisle (ok, so that’s another tradition we’re keeping)!

    Post # 28
    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I stayed in a hotel with two of my good friends (one Maid of Honor and one Bridesmaid). It was so fun!! I missed him, but we had a blast! Plus, Hubby and I didn’t want to see each other on the wedding day until I walked down the aisle.

    Post # 29
    761 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We are planning to stay together the night before, since he does not drive it would not work for him to stay at our place alone and I really want that time in the morning getting coffee just the two of us and having a little calm before the chaos.

    Post # 30
    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We live together.  We also don’t sleep very well apart.  I don’t really understand how or why sleeping apart would make my wedding day better or more special…even though that seems to be the consensus.  If it is important to you to sleep apart, then do it!

    Post # 31
    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    As I read this post, I asked Fiance what his thoughts were…

    Fiance: “Well, I will be cuddled up with Best Man,”

    Me: “Wait, I will be sleeping in the bed by myself.  Don’t you think you should go one night solo in the bed?”

    Fiance: “I think you should cuddle with your BM’s that night too.  And please take pictures.”

    Big sigh….i love my quirky, unique, lovable, but sometimes exasperating FH, I really do….


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