Post # 16
I’m a night shift nurse working 4 nights/week – 7p-7a twice and 11p-7a twice. My fiance is a police officer also working nights but he does only 8 hour shifts 5 times a week. Despite working the same shift, we often have months where we only have 1 or 2 of the same nights off. It is definitely hard. We try to just make the best of it, doing date nights/time together whenever that may be.
I’m sure with school, that’s another crazy thing to manage. The only thing I can say is it will be temporary. You will finish school at some point, and you probably won’t be working nights forever. If you are able to self-schedule, try to cluster your shifts together and attempt to coordinate when your husband has more free time. Use the crock pot to cook dinner while you’re asleep all day, so that when you wake up and he gets home, you can at least enjoy each other’s company while eating instead of cooking and eating on the fly before your shift.
Post # 17
Ugh, I hated night shift. My husband and I were the same set up as you, but we weren’t in school so we at least got to eat dinners together. I am not a noctural being either so the second I could I switched to days! I still hate working weekends when he’s off because it’s a whole weekend I don’t get to spend with him or family/friends, but it’s working for now. I am really hoping to get out of 12 hour shifts and find something M-F in the future but we know as nurses those jobs can be rare and very sought after! I hope you find what works for you both and congratulations on working towards your masters! It’s a great achievement!
Post # 18
rn71015: I didn’t have this exact situation, but Darling Husband and I were LD for the first year and a half of our relationship. We got to spend 1 weekend in every 2-3 together (so not bad at all for LD) but it wasn’t the best. We did fight more than usual during that period of time and we were tired from all the travel. Seeing each other only ever 3 weeks was just too long apart.
I think the best you can do is know that this is just temporary. Do you ever plan to shift to the day shift? When will you both be done your masters programs? When you do have time together, do what you can to make it special.