- 4 years ago
You CANNOT make someone who is crazy stop being crazy by telling them not to be crazy.
My Mother-In-Law was tragically crazy- ex.- when we got engaged, Darling Husband bought her a TOTL dishwasher, which she needed. She went ballistic because he didn’t buy her a ring as he’d bought me. CRAZY.
Another example- we asked her to go to dinner with us one night, and she got into the back seat of the car and began to pray her Rosary to ask the Blessed Mother for me to fall out of the car door when Darling Husband was driving 60 mph.
Another- I was gifted a beautiful set of china, complete set, every imaginable serving and setting piece FOR 12, as a wedding present from some coworkers. Guess what she gave us as a wedding present? 2 place settings of HER favorite china.
I TOTALLY understand YOUR anger. It is protective toward your wonderful Fiance. But it is expending your energy on something that will never respond to it in any sort of positive way. STOP reading her FB entries if they bother you. You know they will be CRAZY. He handles them AMAZINGLY well. He IS, indeed, a GOOD MAN.
You and Fiance are blessed by the presence of each other and by the fact that your wonderful mom has in fact REPLACED the maternal role in his life. That was exactly what happened in my marriage.
You are right in assuming that she will slide in and out of your life. Think how ABSOLUTELY BLESSED you are that she won’t be physically present at YOUR wedding!