(Closed) NIghtmares Continue. Does anyone else have dreams about FI-EX?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’s in your dream because his lack of communication still bothers you.  Especially if you’ve had these dreams multiple times.

I’d try to sit down with him and talk it out

Post # 5
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391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think it’s perfectly acceptable for you to have been enjoying your dating days as you were. But I hope he found the wrappers in the trash or somewhere a little less conspicuous. It would just seem like poor manners to leave them out in the open…it’s like leaving a used tissue paper or not flushing your toilet.

But for him to be hurt or agitated about how you acted before you got together…not his place.

I do, however, agree that stating “I guess I have to stop seeing other men” was a little insensitive especially if you were in bed with him if you said such, unless you were both in a jovial kind of mood. If not, then…yeah…I’ve had those mistakes too. The best way for it to go is to simply let go of it, especially him.

The nightmares are saying something, especially if they occur frequently. I have a Fiance with an ex-wife too but I know for certain that he’d never leave me for her, and I’d never leave him for my ex-husband. I believe it is because we have not displayed any signs of regret, ever, in getting with each other and that we rarely (if not never) mention our exes in each other’s presence. It’s just a rule we came up with. Your Fiance broke up with you once for his ex, and it’s rational to have that fear come up.

Obviously one way to resolve this is by talking to him and being honest. Tell him how you feel because of the past, but don’t linger on it like it’s a source of resentment. If that doesn’t work, call in a third party.

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