- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
My Fi and I recently decided that it was not a good idea to have his sister involved in our wedding. We sent her a letter explaining that she is no longer welcome to be an attendant. We realize this will alter our relationship with her/possibly nix her from our life.
Long story short, we had a falling out with his mother and father that has gotten nasty and after asking the sis to keep her thoughts to herself and not involve us in their business (she is 21 but still lives with the parents), she keeps disrespecting the boundary (to the point where she came to our door unannounced and was looking for a confrontation about her mother’s birthday). We have now had enough. I am dealing with some feelings of guilt, but I guess that is normal? Neither one of us could imagine dealing with the sis on the wedding day, especially because we felt she was at risk for bringing the mother to the wedding (after we told both mom and dad they were not welcome). She just would not respect our boundaries and we were pushed too far.
Has anyone else experienced this? Telling a friend she cannot be a brdiesmaid is one thing, but I feel it is different when it is a family member. I do not regret the decision but am just going through the cycle of feelings involved…..any help would be appreciated!