Post # 1
FI’s parents have close friends that own a printing & design company. As soon as we were engaged in February this couple came forward and offered to take care of all of our printing needs. We were shocked!! It was incredibly generous of them. We tried to refuse at first & said of course we’d give them some money – that a discount alone would be a fantastic gift. They insisted & were very persistent about it – said it was their present to us & when we were ready, to come to them to talk about STD’s, etc. We were so grateful!
So a few weeks ago Fiance sent an email – saying we were thinking of doing STD’s soon and can we come in & look at some of the samples? There was no response for almost a week and then the answer came. “Sorry we no longer do social printing”. Now, please don’t get me wrong. We were stunned when they offered this and we were extremely appreciative – we even nixed the idea of menus and programs & decided to do those ourselves so that we wouldn’t be taking advantage of their generosity.
What I don’t understand is why they’re now backing out. They’re not offering a discount or the option to use the corporate designs either. Fiance asked his Mom about it and she thinks it’s weird too. Even if they don’t do mass social invites, they do have access to them – we’d even be cool with simpler corporate invites. There has been ZERO drama between the friends, no one is sick, the business is doing very well – there is no way that the “there’s something else going on” argument can be made. This puts us in a pretty bad place because now our already tight budget is screwed – we didn’t budget for invitations.
Normally this wouldn’t really bother me. What gets me is – why offer?? Why be so damn insistent on it and then reneg?
Sorry this is long, I’m not really looking for an answer – it’s done, we’ll figure something out. We’ve already started looking at other options that would be inexpensive, it’s not a huge deal, I know, it’s just odd. I just needed a safe place to vent and I can do that with you ladies. Thanks 😉
Post # 3
This is a totally weird idea, but is it possible they zoned out and didn’t recognize his name? Can FI’s parents tactfully look into it?
Post # 4
Very stange. I would just move on. There are a lot of inexpensive places to get things printed. So sorry that they backed out on you though!
Post # 5
Uggghh, that stinks!!! Maybe there’s something going on with the company (they made too many “for free” offers) that nobody knows about, not even FI’s family?
Post # 6
Sorry to hear that – maybe they got cold feet about having to do it. That’s really poor form on their part!
Nonetheless, I agree with the other posters – I would just let it go and find a vendor that would love to contribute to your wedding versus one that is reluctant. Definitely look at Etsy and their alchemy function!
Post # 7
Thanks for the support ladies.
@ snowflake That was my 1st thought too but she def. knew it was from Fiance because he sent the email to her personal email, not the business address. Also, FI’s email address is [email protected].
I totally think they just flat out don’t want to do it anymore which is fine but it’s just weird that they were so gung-ho about it. FI’s parents said they’d see if the friends bring it up again (they often go to dinner together) but I asked them (FMIL & FFIL) not to bring it up because I don’t want to seem greedy. We’re def. moving on because it’s not worth it to start drama.
Post # 8
That stinks! And it’s the problem with getting things for free, you usually can’t depend on people if they aren’t motivated by money.
Did you respond to the email? If I were you, I wouldn’t let them get away with it that easy. I’d say something like “I am very surprised at your response, is there a reason why you no longer do social invitations? Also, I wish you would have told us sooner as we were counting on getting them from you after your generous offer to help us out”.
Sounds kind of harsh, but it’s a perfectly appropriate response after the way they treated you.
Post # 9
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I would be so mad and frustrated! Best of luck with figuring this whole thing out.
Post # 10
My first thought was the same as snowflake’s, especially since their response seems so business-like!
That really stinks!