(Closed) Nixing the wedding party completely

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Keep her. If anything, you can have one strong supporter there with you on your wedding day, and the memories of getting ready with her could still be things you cherish. Don’t punish yourself, either, by just nixing the whole idea.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Can you not afford to buy the dresses for the FBILs girlfriend and Maid/Matron of Honor to just get the process over with? It seems like the $$ is where they are tripping up. Otherwise, I think you’re totally within your bounds to just not have a wedding party. We aren’t having one! And while I think unbalanced wedding parties are totally fine, nobody in the brides side and 4 people on the groom’s side is going to look really strange!

Post # 5
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Worker bee

Maybe just include your 1 bridesmaid and your fiance’s best man and then modify what the bridal party does (i.e. you don’t have to announce them into the reception or include them in all your pictures) but still have them stand beside you during the ceremony.

Post # 6
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7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Yeah, maybe you can help out FBILs GF? It sounds like she really wanted to be in it if she called you crying.

Its not a huge deal if the men outnumber the ladies. Just have all the groomsmen come in and stand with your Fiance and your girls walk by themselves.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I only had a Maid/Matron of Honor, and my husband had a Best Man, and 2 of my brothers were ushers, and a third brother did a reading.  It will be okay. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee

Would you make your bridesmaid a MOH? If she is the only 1 then it sounds like she is the Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 11
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1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Can you just have your bridesmaids wear a dress off the rack that goes with your weddings overall color scheme? It is a very popular choice nowadays for the bridesmaids to wear different dresses. I know this is not what you originally planned, but I think it could be cute and then maybe your Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaid could use a dress they already own?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

well I think as the bride you would of course have the final say so in whether or not the dress makes the cut. I would want to be there too, but since you are so far apart, just send her the colors, and say, “go find two or 3 dress options and keep the receipts, I’ll give final approval on one (maybe you could webcam or have her take pics and send) and then return the other two”

That way she can set her own price point but you have options as to which one she wears in case she picks out a couple that don’t make the cut. It’s good that you are being flexible, wedding planning sure does teach you to roll with the punches!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

can you have your Maid/Matron of Honor and the other Bridesmaid or Best Man send you digital pics of what dresses they do have, and you can hopefully pick something from their existing wardrobe?  i do think it’s important to have someone standing up with you at the ceremony and to help you with all of the wedding day-of stuff (like your dress train, etc.) 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think I would elimate the wedding party as well.

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