(Closed) No accommodations for children…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We said ‘Adult Reception’ on ours and got the same effect.  No one brought kids or asked to bring them.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I second the “Adult Reception Only” wording. “No accommodations for children” does sound a lil bit harsh

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

No, I don’t think it’s rude at all. In fact, I think it’s extremely rude for people to assume their kids would be invited. We are not having children at our wedding either. While I don’t have any children in my family (other than my 16 month old nephew) all of my friends have children. It bugs me when people assume that their child is invited to a wedding. I don’t feel the need to address the issue. If the kid’s name is not on the invitation, nor does it say Mr. & Mrs. Smith “and Children” or “and Family”, then they should take that to mean their kid is not invited.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would also try to spread the information by word of mouth as well.  Personally, I like the phrase “Adult Reception” better.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

we’re using Adult Reception only on the invitations, also I’m telling those that I KNOW would try to bring them. 

@ Monkeygirl, I agree, but a lot of people don’t think the same way and if it’s not mentioned.. you probably will get some people who will bring their children.  I grew up knowing I would not go to a wedding if I were a certain age lol

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Your wording does sound a tad harsh… We are putting “Please make childcare arrangements” on our RSVP cards. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@honeybear, good question!  I’m having a junior bridesmaid, flower girl, and ring bearer.. all family members, from out of town.  So, I think I’m going to allow them.. people can get mad, I don’t care they are apart of the wedding party!  Plus they are really really cute! lol

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

exactly! lol  hey.. it’s our wedding, we do what we want! lol

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would invite children in the wedding party to the reception, but not any other children.  I would just try to keep the rules the same for everyone (i.e. we aren’t having any children at the wedding or reception except those in the wedding party).

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

“Adult Reception” sounds good. I wish we put that on ours – I thought people would guess by the fact their children’s names weren’t on the invite that they weren’t invited, but not everyone is that bright!! I don’t think anyone would blame you if you made an exception for children in the bridal party – it’s pretty normal to do that. And if other guests do get cranky well that’s their own fault and hopefully you wouldn’t have to hear about it anyway.

Just a note that if there are any young babies people might still ask about that bc often an exception is made for them (i.e. babies who are still breastfeeding/too young to be babysat).

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My 3 year old niece is our flower girl and will be the only child at our reception.  Even though other people are bringing their kids for the weekend they know that for that one night, they have to arrange for childcare (which we are helping with but not paying for).  No one seems to mind that my niece is an exception to the rule, they understand that she’s family and she’s IN THE WEDDING. 

Most of my friends are grateful for the night off, my MOHs both have babies and can’t wait to leave them home and come out for a night with the grown ups! 

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