Post # 47
You may want to check…. underage drinking is sometimes legal at a) private functions on private property and b) with parental consent. It is here, anyway, but it depends on your local laws.
Drinking age is pretty arbitrary anyway. 20 year olds are not any less responsible than 21 year olds, on average. Plus, I don’t understand how 18 year olds are “responsible” enough to own a gun, get married, gamble, vote, die for their country, use tobacco…. but not drink alcohol.
Private rant aside… Either no liquor or just a champagne toast.
Post # 48
It’s your wedding. If you don’t want alcohol there that is your choice, people can deal with it. I went to a dry wedding and had no issues at all, nor did any of the other 80 or so guests.
We would not have a dry wedding, just would not fly with our group. We diy-ed our alcohol because having it supplied by our caterer was way too expensive and not having liquor was not an option. We had sparkling cier for the toast since I had a lot of teens and kids and my family don’t drink so it worked better for everyone.
Post # 49
Also wanted to comment on all the negativity surrounding your age from other posters: so what if she is 18. Big deal. Whether 18 or 30 and planning a wedding what does it matter. Does it mean her plans are less serious because of her age. Get real people. I had a high school friend plan her wedding our senior year and she got married right after graduation at 18. That was in 1999. She is still happily married.
Post # 50
Why would there be “commotion” that you are drinking when you are not? I’ve never heard of something like that. I was 20 when I got married and several guests at my wedding were underage. The bartenders required an ID and so no one underage was served alcohol.
Post # 51
if you had a champagne toast how would waiters easily identify who was over 21 and who wasnt? (other than the really obvious older folk)
i think dry is easiest to be honest
Post # 52
There is absoutely nothing wrong with not having any alcohol at the reception. We didn’t have any at ours. Mainly because it was at a church, but I also wanted people to remember our wedding, and not get drunk and possibly ruin it for everyone. I don’t think any of the people would have gotten drunk, but you never know.
Post # 53
I think having a dry wedding is completely fine! I have been to many dry weddings that were very fun! No one even missed the alcohol! Fiance and myself will be having a champagne toast but no other alcohol. I don’t want a drunk fest and a lot of my family just can’t control themselves and they feel like they have to get sloppy. Fiance isn’t very excited about the dry thing but it’s a decision I’ve made and I have no room in my budget to purchase a whole bunch of alcohol. Not to sound to bridezilla-y but it’s my day and what I say goes and if you don’t like it, don’t come. 🙂
Post # 54
@Kng2178: I think if your Fiance is concerned about the heavy drinkers, especially his mother, I think its appropriate to have a dry wedding. I got married when I was 20 fourteen years ago and legally it had to be dry since it was a public event (though I did drink at the time anyway).
It’s your wedding, your rules.
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Post # 56
I’d like to thank everyone who gave me advice on this topic. I’m going to respect what my fiance wants and keep the recpetion dry.