(Closed) no alcohol at rehearsal?

posted 5 years ago in Food
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think its fine. As long as they have food and some sort of beverage, alcohol not required. I would rather stay close by at a place with no alcohol.

I wouldn’t include your after party on the invite, especfially if you aren’t hosting it. Just spread it by word of mouth at the rehearsal. “So just a reminder, dinner is at X bbq, and we are planning to go to Y bar for drink after if you want to join us! If not we’ll see you all tomorrow!” kind of dealie.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

This is TOUGH. I’m picturing my showing up at the rehearsal as a bridesmaid and there being no glass of wine and whether I’m disappointed or not boils down to how the rehearsal went. If everything was smooth sailing and we’re all just socialising, no worries I can hold off. If it was disastrous and everyone’s tense and rolling thier eyes, goddamnit I want a drink. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

If everyone likes to party, you won’t be starting your wedding weekend off on the right foot by offering them a dry party.  I’d keep looking.  Can you get takeout and have it at a park?  Many restaurants actually allow BYOB if they don’t serve alcohol – is this one of those?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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teacherbee_111 :  This is a fact!!!!!!!!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

I’m a social drinker but it wouldn’t be a big deal to me at all if you had a dry rehearsal or even a dry wedding. The BBQ place sounds great & I’d prefer the convenient location over a further locale/uber. Even if people are typically drinkers, surely they can still enjoy good food, good ambience & good conversation for the evening without alcohol involved. And anyone who chooses can always have a nightcap afterwards. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Can you find somewhere slightly further away that does serve alcohol (like a 15-25 minute drive)? If not then I think people will understand if you explain, and the after party sounds like a good idea 🙂

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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teacherbee_111 : Anyone who can’t get through one meal without alcohol has a problem. Follow the pp’s suggestion about telling them at the rehearsal that you will go out for a drink after.

If you would rather have alcohol, have you checked into getting a license for a private event? I don’t know the liquor laws where you live, but that is a possibility here.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

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teacherbee_111 :  typically I’m the kind of person who would want alcohol to be at any party revolving around the wedding, but your plan sounds pretty good. dinner first, then off to a different place for partying. be sure you include the whole evening plan in the invitation so none of the boozehounds panic.  😉

or, can you have somebody host at their home or a park? you could get catering from a casual restaurant, and lots of drinks from costco. I once went to a rehearsal party that was a picnic in a state park, and it was absolutely lovely. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think you BBQ plan sounds lovely. Honestly I wouldn’t want to pay to have to uber very far, as that is costing the guests money. Plus if everyone is out of town they may be tired and not want to have to go all over. Just my thoughts though! I think you are doing a nice balance.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

BBQ sounds yummy! what if you switch it up to a luncheon instead of dinner. Then you can break, so any last minute things you need to do, and if folks want to go grab happy hour on their own they can.  you make sure and get your beauty rest. It’s very easy for dinner to go on and alcohol flow and next thing you know its midnight and you have bags under your eyes in the AM. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I like the above idea for having a lunch instead possibly. Or at least an early dinner? I feel like if you do it before 6pm it won’t be that big of a deal and you can just explain the situation to them and suggest a place for a post party, but that you’ll be having a bit of an early night for good reason. I’m assuming there isn’t anywhere you could do a takeout picnic sort of thing?

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