Post # 1
I am stressing out because of these extra costs I am finding out about for my simple and inexpensive destination wedding. It is an all inclusive resort, but since I am having a private reception, they charge for food AND alcohol per person!
Here is my timeline:
4pm: Ceremony on the beach, followed by champage toast on the beach (for which i am paying $30 per bottle of champagne).
5pm – 7pm: dinner in private banquet hall. 3 course meal. comes with juice bar included. Open bar would cost $17/person. I am estimating 30 guests, so that would be $510 to have alcohol available during dinner for 2 hours!
7pm – 10pm: Bonfire party on the beach – open bar is included in the price.
What is stressing me is that there have been so many extra costs already I did not know about and this $510 for 2 hours of open bar is stressing me out!
Would it be totally weird NOT to have alcohol for these 2 hours, and then guests can drink at the beach party after for 3 hours?
Or should I suck it up and pay the $510???
Please try to respond as though you were a guest at this wedding – what would you think/feel?
Post # 3
Is this a full open bar w/ beer, wine and liquor? If so, maybe you can do something like an open bar with just beer and wine? That should help cut down on the cost…
Post # 4
Personally, I think people would prefer to have a little wine with dinner than do a champagne toast on the beach–but I understand if the toast is important to YOU. However, I wouldn’t think it was rude per se not to have wine at dinner; I’d probably just wonder where it was. I wouldn’t be surprised if your guests started flagging down waiters.
Do you have some flexibility? ie, is this some event hall that has exclusive rights on the alcohol they provide? Because here’s what I would recomend not paying $30/bottle for a champagne toast. It’s to toast, whcih isn’t really to drink. A lot of people are eh on champagne anyway. I also might scale back the alcohol for the beach bonfire and do just wine and beer instead of the full bar in favor of being able to have wine with dinner, but then again, I’m not much of a drinker. Maybe the other bees would go the other way…
Post # 5
Could you just have a wine bottle or two on every table? That way there is wine available but it might be a cheaper option than a full open bar?
Post # 6
Hmm…I’d rather skip the champagne toast and have wine or something during dinner. $17/person is pretty darn good for an open bar, too.
Honestly, you’re having a destination wedding…your guests are flying there (?). An open bar, to me, would be the “right” thing since you are hosting the event. And frankly, as an adult–I don’t really drink juice
A limited bar could definitely bring your cost down. Lots of places only do beer and wine, no hard liquor.
Post # 7
thanks bees. i have thought of all these ideas. the resort is being pretty subborn. i first asked to just have wine served to reduce the cost. the coordiantor replied by saying the cost cannot be reduced and that i can have the juice bar and that i could do the toast during dinner instead of on the beach after the ceremony.
i wrote back not too long ago asking your other ideas – if i could purchase a couple of bottles of wine per table OR bring in my own and pay a fee to have them opened. …. i’ll see what they say. but so far they have not budged on anything.
as for the cutting the beach alcohol, i dont think i can either. and i like the idea of the full bar for that part anyway. it was just one price that included the bonfire, open bar and dj, so i am not going to mess with that.
Post # 8
Hmmm…Can you substitute something else instead of the champagne toast on the beach to swap the champagne to dinner? Like sparklers or a group picture or something? You and/or your hubby or whomever can still give a speech…
Post # 9
@JennyW1: ya, maybe that is something to think of. i actually don’t care about champagne per say for the toast. i would be fine with doing a toast with whatever drink people are holding. so if we do the toast with regular alcohol and skip the cost of the champage i would pay $510 total instead of $510 plus $180 for 5 bottle of champagne.
i will see what the resort says about buying 2 wine bottles per table though since i already asked…maybe i will get lucky!
Post # 10
persistance pays off! the resort said i could purchase wine bottles from them ($25 each) or bring my own and pay $11 per bottle for corkage fees! woo hoo!! they even said i could bring in my own champagne bottles.
now i just gotta figure out how much wine and champagne costs in my destination off the resorts and then i can do this the most inexpensive way as possible 🙂
Post # 11
I would personally rather have wine with dinner than champagne before dinner. Starting to drink and then stopping for 2 hours while eating would probably make me sleepy.
Post # 12
Too bad the resort was being so difficult, It is kind of a rip off on their part as, if all the guests are staying at the resort, they would all be entitled to free alcoholic drinks during the whole day if they were not at your reception.
Glad you are coming up with some alternatives.