(Closed) No alcohol during dinner, but at party after?? help!!!

posted 10 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Should alcohol be available during dinner or is it okay to skip it?

    DEFINITELY pay the $510 and serve alcohol - would be rude and tacky not to

    It's okay to skip it, champagne toast AND the beach party after dinner with alchohol is plenty

    Ask my guests individually how they would feel and explain situation to them, then decide

  • Post # 3
    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Is this a full open bar w/ beer, wine and liquor? If so, maybe you can do something like an open bar with just beer and wine? That should help cut down on the cost…

    Post # 4
    1870 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Personally, I think people would prefer to have a little wine with dinner than do a champagne toast on the beach–but I understand if the toast is important to YOU. However, I wouldn’t think it was rude per se not to have wine at dinner; I’d probably just wonder where it was. I wouldn’t be surprised if your guests started flagging down waiters.

    Do you have some flexibility? ie, is this some event hall that has exclusive rights on the alcohol they provide? Because here’s what I would recomend not paying $30/bottle for a champagne toast. It’s to toast, whcih isn’t really to drink. A lot of people are eh on champagne anyway. I also might scale back the alcohol for the beach bonfire and do just wine and beer instead of the full bar in favor of being able to have wine with dinner, but then again, I’m not much of a drinker. Maybe the other bees would go the other way…

    Post # 5
    8734 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Could you just have a wine bottle or two on every table? That way there is wine available but it might be a cheaper option than a full open bar?

    Post # 6
    14181 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Hmm…I’d rather skip the champagne toast and have wine or something during dinner. $17/person is pretty darn good for an open bar, too.

    Honestly, you’re having a destination wedding…your guests are flying there (?). An open bar, to me, would be the “right” thing since you are hosting the event. And frankly, as an adult–I don’t really drink juice

    A limited bar could definitely bring your cost down. Lots of places only do beer and wine, no hard liquor.

    Post # 8
    1870 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Hmmm…Can you substitute something else instead of the champagne toast on the beach to swap the champagne to dinner? Like sparklers or a group picture or something? You and/or your hubby or whomever can still give a speech…

    Post # 11
    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I would personally rather have wine with dinner than champagne before dinner.  Starting to drink and then stopping for 2 hours while eating would probably make me sleepy. 

    Post # 12
    47430 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Too bad the resort was being so difficult, It is kind of a rip off on their part as, if all the guests are staying at the resort, they would all be entitled to free alcoholic drinks during the whole day if they were not at your reception.

    Glad you are coming up with some alternatives.

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