(Closed) No alcohol on your wedding???

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 4
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Busy bee

Maybe you could just do a champagne toast and leave off the full bar?  I think that people do expect champagne at a wedding, but that doesn’t mean you’re even obligated to provide that.  I’ve certainly been to weddings where there was no alcohol.  Do you have a family punch recipe or anything like that?  If you offer a signature nonalcoholic beverage, people probably wouldn’t even miss the booze, particularly in daytime.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is one of the main reasons we are having an early wedding and a lunch reception. We are drinkers, but most of the groom’s family are not. In fact, most of them do not drink at all. We are having a champagne toast, though, and are just planning on having fun drinks like Jones sodas. Don’t let people pressure into having alcohol if you do not want it, but realize that if you are planning on a lot of dancing, being alcohol-free may not be the best way to go. Its just so much easier to convince people to dance when they’ve been drinking. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

If you would like the option you could see if the venue will offer a cash bar. That way you guys wouldn’t have to pay for it and it would still be available. I doubt the venue would mind making some extra money either rather than no money at all.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

your wedding is about you! if you don’t drink, and you don’t want to spend the money – don’t! if they need to drink that badly, they can go out afterwards. they’ll be just fine with punch, i’m sure. besides, they’re there to celebrate with you not to get drunk (at least, let’s hope so!).

(we’re forgoing all alcohol. it was never a question for us. though a few members of my family drink, most of us don’t – not even champagne. we’re saving a lot and we’ll have fun either way!)

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2007

My husband doesn’t drink so we didn’t have any alcohol at our wedding. It was a late evening wedding and we didn’t miss it at all. Our friends know how to have fun without it, you know? And it’s SO expensive. I don’t think it’s ungracious at all.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Do what you want!  I don’t think people "expect" anything at weddings these days since they are all so different and anything goes– and if people honestly ‘expect’ their drink/champagne, I think that’s just wrong.  We didn’t do a full bar– just wine/beer and a champagne toast, with a signature cocktail for the cocktail hour, and I didn’t hear a single complaint.  We were slightly worried about college friends getting sloppy and drunk, so I intentionally wanted to limit the amount of hard alcohol that was there, and it worked out just fine.  No sloppy friends, and no complainers.  Again- do what you want!  If you don’t want to do champagne even, you could serve sparkling martinelli’s– I’ve always loved that!!

Post # 11
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Newbee

We are not having alcohol due to my FIs religion, which is going to be kinda bad for my family since they all like cocktails and kinda of expect it.  My suggestion is to find great signature non- alcoholic drinks that still look pretty and are great to drink.  I dont think anyone will complain and its easier to pull off at a daytime wedding as oppose to my reception ending at 8pm.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Check on the bartender fee for even a cash bar. I’ve noticed that they run anywhere from $75-$75 an hour!

If you, your families and you friends don’t drink, don’t have it! The punk and champaign options sound perfect. In all likelyhood if your friends have a SO they are probably not big drinkers either. (birds of a feather…) Plus, it’s during the day. I love my wine but I can wait!

My family doesn’t drink beyond a little wine and maybe an after dinner drink. Me, Fiance, his family and most of our friends all drink. It is going to be a BIG part of our bill!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

i didn’t read all the responses before me, but i say skip it.

since your close circle and immediate family aren’t drinkers and its daytime….$2000 is a lot of money. save the it!

we will be having a dry afternoon reception….i havent thought once about alcohol since we aren’t drinkers.  😉

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We are not having alcohol. Althouh his family drinks, mine does not. We would have to pay to have a bar tender, and a police officer on duty. no thanks! The lodge that we are staying at has cabins that my fiance’s parents are going to rent, I told them that if they wanted to have it that was fun, but just to keep it in the cabin, and everyone has been totally fine with it!

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