Post # 1
I’ve seen a lot of threads on the cash bar vs. open bar debate, and I’m just curious… Let’s say, after all is said and done, there is just no way for the bride and groom to pay for alcohol for a wedding. The bride and groom must decide that they can either have a cash bar to give guests the option of buying drinks, or to forego alcohol all together. There is no in-between, there is no scrambling to pull money from other parts of the budget, there is nothing. The options are cash bar or no alcohol.
As a guest, what would you prefer: the option of buying alcohol at a cash bar, or skipping alcohol all together?
Note: I’m not changing the options on the poll for anyone to say they would make sure to budget for alcohol, or they would have a limited bar… No. Just no. The poll is as it stands with those options. That’s what makes this a challenge. 😉
Post # 3
@Apple_Blossom: Cash bar. I would rather pay for a drink than have no options. Just like I would rather go out to eat somewhere I can get a drink than go to McDonalds and have a coke.
Post # 4
I guess I would go cash bar…it’s hard to say that because in Australia and my circle I’ve never had to pay for a drink at a wedding (beer and wine is provided as the norm, if you want liquor you would have to pay though) but I know that there would be a lot of unhappy guests if they were not able to have a drink or two. So I would provide them the option to purchase it and wear the tut tuts about having a cash bar rather than not have any alcohol at all.
Post # 5
I’ve been to many weddings with no-host bars… I hmight have had more (memorable) fun at these events because I didn’t go overboard on free booze
Post # 6
i would prefer to have the option of having a drink even if i had to pay for it. cash bar.
Post # 7
Defnitely a no no where I live – there would be a revolt if there was no alcohol avaialable, so if there was absolutely no other option a cash bar would be better than nothing and I would just cop the whinging from guests about paying.
Post # 8
I know this isnt an option but i’d scrimp elsewhere to make sure there was at least a keg. otherwise I’d have no alcohol
Post # 10
Cash bar! I have no problem paying for a drink as a guest.
Post # 11
I would only give what you could afford as a host…so that means no bar.
Post # 12
If these are the only 2 scenarios… then Cash Bar is better than no bar in my mind.
I am not a fan of Dry Weddings.
Etiquette Snob that I am… lol
When Budget is a consideration for Brides here on WBee, I even suggest the good old fashioned Cake & Champagne (bubbly) option for a small informal Reception… less than 1 hour and the couple can be on their way to their Honeymoon Destination !!
Lol… that said,
If you can squeeze even one complimentary drink into your Budget you should… even if it is just Champagne / Sparkling for Toasting with your Wedding Cake.
It will make things more festive. Show you to be considerate hosts, and not militant tea-totallers (which I take it you aren’t)
A glass of bubbly is classy, and can smooth a lot of things over… folks will not then be saying that THERE WAS NO BOOZE… they’ll be saying that you served Bubbly and it was a nice touch.
Hope this helps,
PS… You are going to get a wide variety of opinion on this topic. In truth, Cash Bars are not the norm everywhere… and in some circles they are seen as quite rude. So for best results it won’t really matter what a bunch of women tell you on the Internet… WHAT WILL MATTER IS… WHAT IS THE CUSTOM IN YOUR PARTICULAR SOCIAL CIRCLE ? Those are your Guests and the ones you don’t want to offend.
(Your WBee Profile says Michigan… from what I’ve read on similar subjects here on WBee, most Michigan folks / rural residents… seem to see Cash Bars as an ok thing… the exception seems to be if you are living in a large metropolitan area)
Post # 13
I actually don’t even like alchohol, so I’d be fine without. But it seems like a lot of people would be disappointed without the option, so I guess it’s better to go with the cash bar.
Post # 14
I had a cash bar and no one cared because at least we had alcohol!
I always say it’s better to have an option to drink and pay than not have the option at all… and you don’t have to pay thousands to get all your friends drunk that way.
Post # 15
Because our families love to drink and FI and I are on a budget, we’ll either be doing a cash bar, finding a venue that’s ok with and have BYOB, or finding a venue attached to a bar where they can purchase their own drinks as well. No alcohol is not an option. We just can’t afford all of the drinks they’ll want.
Post # 16
No alcohol for me!
My husband and I don’t drink, so we were toying with the idea of no alcohol anyway at the wedding! We would be more than happy to provide nice, non-alcoholic drinks (mocktails, punch, soft drink, sparkling fruit juice, etc.), and just tell people it’s our personal preference to not provide alcohol. If they can’t have fun without booze, then that’s their problem.
I’m from Australia, and drinking is a huge part of our culture (sadly), but I’ve heard many people complain about having to buy their own drinks at weddings, so I would just rather not provide the alcohol and let people whinge about not being drunk than have them be drunk and whinging about paying for it.