(Closed) No alcohol wedding? Anyone?

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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emilyluwest:  I believe that you should do what is right for you. I am having an alcohol free wedding and most people who know Fiance & I expected it. They had the chance to decline the invitation but all accepted even those that are not Christians. If people are happy for you, they will respect your beliefs and will just want to celebrate your wedding day with you. 

As long as you have enough food and drink I’m sure everyone will be happy.

All the best!

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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emilyluwest:  I don’t think your family would be upset.  Too bad you could not host an after party for them somewhere.  I, personally, don’t think you need alcohol to have a good time.  I sure don’t!  All I need is good friends, conversation and maybe some music!  I like to have my wits about me.

I understand your situation though.  I will be having my reception in the church hall, and of course no alcohol.  Some of my family members have mentioned, “but you can’t drink there”.  I said well I am sorry, it is what I can afford.  That is why I am having it there.  I could go the non-alcohol route at another venue, but then I would feel pressure to have a bar which would go over my budget. 

I have family members who had to have alcohol every time something was going on!  Children’s birthday parties, funeral luncheons, baby showers, etc.  I am not a big drinker myself, but I enjoy a glass of wine or a sweet cocktail.  Anything else gets me sick! 

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

What I would do – daytime event, open bar, run a tab. The few people who drink will be able to do so, the other will not approach the bar.

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Church

We didn’t want to have alcohol even be a conversation in our wedding so we are having our reception in the church banquet hall.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

How about some non-alcoholic mixed drinks for some extra fun?

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Studio 450

I personally would be annoyed, sorry. especially if they did not let you know before hand it was. Can you have a cash bar for the guests that do drink? I went to one wedding in the south , Asheville, NC (I’m from NYC) and it was termed a “dry wedding” and all of us “city girls” had never, ever, heard of that! It was actually the same type of situation, his father was a pastor, not a big drinking family and had several alocholic family members. Luckily, (not for our wallets) when we arrived, there was a cash bar there. 

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I don’t think they will be annoyed but like a PP said, a bit bored and have less fun. I’ve been to a dry wedding and I felt tired and wanted to go home. No-one danced etc

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

While the majority of our guests are Christian and do drink once in awhile (without getting drunk) I’m of the opinion that drinking isn’t necessary to have fun at a party. We’re doing no alcohol because a) it’s cheaper, b) we don’t have to worry about anyone drinking too much, and c) it’s cheaper. We know our guests and they won’t care. If our friends who are more into drinking want to have a drink, they can go out with other friends after the wedding is over. We’ve had tons of parties in the past without drinking and everyone still danced and had fun 🙂 

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I suggest Daytime wedding and serve wine. or no alcohol at all, I’m sure they would understand.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

I’ve always been of the opinion that if people need to have alcohol to have fun at an event, then they have a problem.  I view it as a drug, just like any other.  In fact, I consider marijuana far less dangerous – I saw a great number of people who were high on MJ and a great number of people whe were drunk in my years working at the hospital ER, and the people on alcohol were always far more impaired.  The only time the MJ was more dangerous than the alcohol was when it was combined with another drug (or when it was alcohol and MJ together).

We’re not serving any alcohol at our event.

 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

I think they will totally fine with not drinking, when most of the guests themselves dont drink it makes perfect sense. Other than a day wedding, if you did want an alcohol option you could serve mocktails and cocktails – have a range so people can pick what they want and no one will even know who is drinking and who isnt as all the glasses will look similar. 

Post # 27
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Newbee

Do what’s best for YOU! We drink casually, but I have a couple close family members who have had some very recent problems with alcohol, and we really just cannot afford a professional bar service. Our venue doesn’t have a liquor license, so we couldn’t BYOB. We did advise everyone ahead of time (on the menu included in the invitation), that there would be no alcohol at the wedding. We decided on a daytime, Sunday wedding that is very kid-friendly, so those who do drink wouldn’t feel like they’re missing out much. We’ve included an Italian Soda Bar with a variety of flavor options that can be mixed and matched, so hopefully that will be fun for people. Many of our guests will be from out of town/state as well, and may want to be able to drive home afterwards rather than stay another night.

Post # 28
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Sugar bee

I believe that Jesus went to a wedding at Cana where so much alcohol was served that the hosts ran out of wine.  Rather embarassing.  Luckily Jesus was on hand to get them out of their predicament. 

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