(Closed) no assigned seating??

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1580 posts
Bumble bee

I know you didn’t really ask, but I’m not a huge fan of that idea. I’m getting flashbacks of the first day of high school and having to find a seat in the cafeteria. ugh.

Post # 4
572 posts
Busy bee

I second that. I went to a wedding that had no assigned seats and it was a  total MESS!

Post # 5
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

This is something I want to do! But…I am worried about the chaos of it. Although I love the family feel, out of respect for those who will see quite a few unfamiliar faces, we’re doing a seating chart.

Post # 6
39 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

im not doing assigned seating, the whole seating chart/ place cards ordeal seems like such a hassle that doesnt need to be done, ive been to 3 weddings that were not assigned seating and i like having the freedom to sit wherever/with whomever you want. Just be sure to reserve front tables for important people (granparents/parents)

Post # 7
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Personally, I would go ahead and assign people to tables.  I hate going to weddings and having to try to seat myself.  And having to do so is even more uncomfortable for those “unfamiliar faces” who don’t know many other people as they are kind of left out as other people are sitting at tables.  Even if you encourage people to introduce themselves to new faces, they are going to go try to sit with family and friends they already know.

Post # 8
962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i’ve considered this, a lot and i’ve consistently heard feedback that says to at least assign tables and let flks sit where they choose at the tables.  specifically, to alleviate people from arriving with 3 in their party and only finding tables with 1 or 2 seats left at them.


Post # 9
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I understand it’s stressful to think about assigning seats, but please please please do it!!! Weddings without assigned seats are the worst, don’t kid yourself. People who claim they had a wedding without assigned seats and it worked otu fine only heard feedback from guests who were either too nice to tell the truth or it worked out for THEM b/c they got in early and got to sit with friends.

I promise you it is a mess and stressful on your guests, don’t do it!! I’ve been to weddings without assigned seating and it honestly ruined the night for me. Be nice to singles or 3 somes and do some work ahead of time!

Post # 10
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We didn’t do assigned seating and there wasn’t really a problem.  We had a small wedding and there were a few groups of people that stuck together so there really wasn’t anyone who was singled out.

Post # 11
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am doing assigned seating to make sure that there is no seating weirdness . . . such as people who I know will come together being split between tables.  I also want my family and his family to mix a little.  Our immediate families love each other, but extended family needs to get to know each other a little!

Post # 12
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think your sign is adorable!  I hadn’t actually thought of doing a little sign like that, but I think it’s a really nice idea.

We didn’t do assigned seating, either, and everything turned out fine.  Everyone mingled, no one got left out, and no families had to be split between tables.  I think unassigned seating works in a variety of situations, and it really just depends on your wedding and on what you want.  Good luck!

Post # 13
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am not doing assigned seating either. Personally I would rather choose where to sit so this is what we are doing. I like your idea of a cute sign!

Post # 14
1 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

I found a cute sign on pinterest that said:


Come as you are

Stay as long as you can

We’re all family

So no seating plan

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