Post # 1
Hey bees! What are your opinions on assigned seating? I am considering just doing some “reserved” tables for immediate family and then letting everyone else pick their own seat. The coordinator at the venue suggest if we are not having assigned seats, we could plate smaller portions of both entree options so we don’t have to ask for a preference in the invitation (I can’t think of anyone with any dietary restrictions, vegan, etc, but will ask that on the invitation)
I personality don’t like assigned seats and would rather pick my own with people I know or are the same age as myself, but I saw a post about some people being very upset about it.
What are your thoughts?
Post # 2
We didn’t do assigned seating beyond a three tables reserved for my parents, his parents, and the wedding party. Our guestlist was small (60 people), there wasn’t anyone who didn’t know at least half the guests there, and there were plenty of extra seats so people could sit with who they wanted. It worked out great. Everyone ended up sitting at a table I probably would have sat them with if we had done a seating chart.
I’ve also been to a couple of weddings with no seating chart and it’s never been a problem.
Post # 3
The downside of not assigning seating is the confusion and delay it causes for your guests. People don’t always seat themselves logically. They will leave two single empty seats across the table from one another. A family of 4 will only be able to find two seats empty together at one table and two at another.
Post # 4
You need to include a shit load more tables/chairs if doing not assigned. People will leave random seats and it wont fit ‘perfectly’.
I’d just do assigned tables and get on with it.
Post # 5
I agree with @jules1949 about the confusion/delay in getting guests to sit. I was guest in a small 40-guest wedding with no assigned seating. The delay was caused by “groups” of friends and family wanting their own table, trying to “save seats” by splaying their jackets and purses around, etc. It was a bit annoying to be honest, but it’s not the end of the world. We had assigned tables for our own wedding.
I’m curious and a bit confused: how will your # of guests with no assigned seating equate to smaller portions? No matter what, you’ll have XX of guests…meaning XX portions to serve. If you have assigned tables, you can still serve the “small” portions the venue coordinator mentioned.
Post # 6
We did assigned seating, but once people were through eating they moved around, which was nice.
Post # 7
without doing assigned seats, there would be no way to tell the chef and servers which guest wants which entree. At other venues I toured, guests received a place card at the door for which entree they wanted, but the venue I chose does not do that and needs to have a number for each entree ahead of time unless each guest gets a smaller portion of both. So instead of picking chicken or fish, they would get served both, just smaller portions.
Post # 8
We had 40 at our wedding and assigned tables. It wasn’t hard and I prefer assigned seats. I was at a wedding once where I sat in the back with the brides grandparents b/c they didn’t get their early enough to get a prime table at the front. Other people have raised excellent points as to why this doesn’t work.
Post # 9
We’re not assigning seats but we are assigning tables
Post # 10
Ah, gotcha. Thank you. I think assigned seating and entree option are mutually exclusive. You can still assign your guests a table to sit at (if you wish), and still serve the smaller chicken & fish combo plate. You won’t need to ask for entree preference in your invitations.
Or like you said in your original post, you can reserve a few tables for immediate family, and let others decide! 🙂 We’re all grownups.
Btw, if I were a guest at your wedding, I’d love to have both options! Yum!
Post # 11
If you do a free for fall, please have way more tables and chairs then there are people. Otherwise, the last 2 people in line (a couple, probably), will have to split up and sit with randos.
Post # 12
Not having assigned seating is the worst. So much confusion and issues.
Post # 13
My Brother-In-Law didn’t do it and it was great! The only assigned seating was his chair and his wife’s chair.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
At the very least please assign tables. In my experience not assigning tables or seating only works with small gatherings where majority of the guests are already familiar with each other. julies1949 and scissorgirl are spot on.
Post # 15
If you don’t at least assign a table you will, as PPs have stated, have to provide at least 20% more seating. That means more centerpieces, more table linens, more chairs if you are renting those…and you’ll likely end up with some ten tops that have six people at them, some with eight, and some groups you’d probably put together split up.
Even having just table assignments also avoids mishaps such as your former Peace Corps college roommate who works for Planned Parenthood stuck sitting next to your ultra-conservative, Trump-loving Aunt Mary.