(Closed) No At-Home Reception following a Destination Wedding

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Helper bee

@smiles4jo:  

A party back home isn’t nessesary. I wouldcompletely understand if I got a dentination weddiitin jute and there was no “at home” party. I’d most likely send a gift along with. Y well wishes. It depends on your family and friends. Will they feel slighted? Only you can answer that. I would want someone Close to me to have the wedding of their dreams rather then feel like they “need” to have a gigantic party

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We are in a smiliar boat so heres the way i see it.

I think it all depends on who you want to celebrate with. If you are happy sharing your day with whoevere can make it Disney, and you won’t feel bad about excluding people from sharing in your day, then I say go for it! There are no “rules” on destitation weddings and parties back at home. 

However if you can’t imagaine not having a celebration without “Aunt Loise” who will not get on a plane ever, and is no way going to florida, then maybe a party back at home after the wedding IS the right decision. Or you coud wait till summer and have that backyard BBQ you were thinking about

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

if you can afford the minimum expenditures for that many guests at a disney wishes wedding, go ahead and invite everyone. yes, the overall basic minimum is $12,000, but they also have minimums of what you have to spend on food per person depending on when your event is. alot of people is alot of food minimums to meet.

 

though… one good thing… if you have alot of guests, you’ll have no trouble getting a room block filled and getting a free night stay for yourself.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

We are planning Disney too…and having a backyard BBQ in the summer for extended family to come to our house and celebrate. The minimum expenditures could get expensive inviting a lot of people down there.

I also know that a lot of people get excited to go to Disney. My worry with inviting that many people would be that they would say yes in the excitement and then not come when financial constraints kick in. That would leave you paying for a lot of expensive dinners for no one.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@smiles4jo:  ooh a swalphin bride! have you checked out The Dis boards? they have a whole disney wedding and honeymoon sections. there are alot of swolphin brides on there. i have seen so many beautiful photos from them.

Try talking to some of the already married brides who have had swan and dolphin weddings. i’m sure they would have some great advice.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I figure that we’ll buy burgers,hotdogs, toppings and pop then have potluck for the rest. It’s not going to be so much of a ‘reception’ as just a get together for those who couldn’t go…should be fairly economical…especially buying from Costco.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t think you should feel obligated to have an at home party. It’s your wedding so do whatever will make you happy 🙂

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m not overly familiar with etiquette or anything regarding Destination Wedding but I think it sounds find to open up the wedding to more people, as long as the guest list is still what you want. If I got an invitation I’d think, how lovely, and either go or not go depending on how close I am with the person. But if you don’t want to spend the extra money at an at-home party, then definitely I don’t think you should feel obligated. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

The at home reception is not necessary with a Destination Wedding socially or etiquettely, in fact calling is a reception is actually a misnomer!  It’s a celebration party really, and not supposed to be “like” a wedding reception (big dress, bouquet toss, first dance, etc).  

If you do have a Destination Wedding with guests, then it is proper to host them in some way immediately after the ceremony which is your wedding reception.  It could even be a nice brunch at a restaurant where they handle all the details!  Then if it’s in Disney World, maybe do a group excursion – totally not necessary but they did travel all that way so I’d feel inclined to give them a little “extra.”

Now, they say, plan for 100% attendance.  So if you invite 200 people to Disney World, you need to book a venue that holds 200 people.  The (bad) alternative is to wait to you get your RSVPs back and then scramble to find a venue/restaurant that holds that many.  Frankly that’d idea would give me an ulcer (waiting for the head count and then find a place).  Plus I don’t even know what the invitation would say in that case.  

So if you just want to keep it to your wedding day (ceremony/reception) only invite the number you feel OK hosting while at the Destination Wedding.

Perhaps you can send wedding announcements (after getting your nice photos back) and mail it to others if you want to somehow share the news.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I do not think it’s necessary to have the party. It’s about the wedding and marriage not the celebration/social obligation. We are eloping and not having any celebration when we return. 

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