(Closed) No babies reception?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
10 posts
  • Wedding: May 2016

As I say to everyone, it is your wedding and your day.  Do what you want.  However…

I know my ring bearer is probably going to scream all the way down the aisle and I am okay with that.  We will laugh about it later and I will probably laugh at it during the wedding.  Our relationship isn’t perfect and our marriage won’t be perfect either.  No one’s is.  I’m sure my 2 year old (and I mean TERRIBLE 2 year old) will cry at everything during the reception and that’s okay with me.  He’s a baby. I CANNOT tell his mother how to discipline her child. But it’s honestly okay. 10 years from now, when I am sitting next to him looking at my wedding album, I would feel terrible explaining that he wasn’t there because I didn’t want to hear him scream. Even though I probably missed out on perfectly good photos of my nephew and I in my wedding dress that will never happen again.  If a baby starts crying during a toast, oh well.  Your day is not ruined…I promise.  I also would feel bad making people find babysitters for their kids so they can come.  I would feel worse if those people missed my reception because they can’t get a babysitter. 

Honestly, some adults whine more than children. But again, it’s your day. You can do whatever you want.  Your reception will be full of dancing and food so they will have plenty to do.  

Post # 17
327 posts
Helper bee

I think as long as you apply the rule equally to everyone (by picking an age and excluding anyone younger), it’s fine. 

Everybody is not invited to everything- adults OR kids! Frankly, the rudest ones are those who make a stink trying to force inclusion after the hosts have made their wishes clear.

Post # 18
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

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CapnKT626:  I agree 100%. I would also add do not be offended or whine because some decline to come. There was a thread a while back and the bride was upset because those she wanted to come to her wedding declined because she said no children. You cant have it both ways. If you decide you dont want children or babies there you need to be prepared for some you really want to be there to decline. They have that right. 

Post # 19
1559 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Garden

I’m a little sceptical about bringing kids to my reception as well because I just don’t want  a heachache but my FI’s family has a lot of children and church members so I have no choice but to add children….fine….but no babies!!!

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