- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I just need to vent for a second…..First off, my wedding is dry because it’s in a state park where alcohol is prohibited. Several of my first cousins have said that they’re not going STRICTLY because there’s no alcohol (they say to BREAK THE LAW and serve it anyway), and the few that are still coming, are bringing flasks. Now I’m afraid my wedding will be boring and all of my family will resent having come. Blah.
SECONDLY, one of my flask-whielding cousins – we’ll call here M – was planning my bachelorette party (not paying for it, just planning) with another one of my cousins – we’ll call her B – (they live in the town the wedding is in). WEELLL….a couple weeks ago, she was visiting family near me, and we hung out with FI and she brought up the bachelorette party, asking who all was going to come. Well, I’m not having bridesmaids, so I only said them (the two cousins) and my best friend, we’ll call here K, whom I’m travelling there with, spending the night with, and whose not ONCE complained about anything wedding-related.
WEEEEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLL, M says, “Yeah…that’s what I was afraid of….I don’t really like her…”
Me: What?? You’ve never met her…?
M: I saw her once in elementary school….I’m just not a fan.
Me: Uuuuhhh….Are you joking? I’m confused…If you don’t like her, there’s not a shot in hell that you actually like me, because K and I have the exact same personality.
M: I still just think it’d be best if she didn’t come.
Me: So you’re saying I can’t invite my best friend to my bachelorette party?
M: Let me put it this way, if you still insist on inviting her, B and I will just do something alone.
So I said a “have fun without me!” and deuced it outta there. What the fudge is she thinking???? Did I do something wrong??? I saw M last week and she said, “so, still insisting on K coming?” and I said, “uh, yep. So we’ll be doing our own thing.” and she said, “that’s fine. B didn’t really feel like inviting you anyway.”
>>I’m going to pause here to add that my best friend, K, has no idea that M and B are saying this about her. I firmly believe in not telling people things that only hurt them, and that they won’t benefit from. I just told her they wanted to do something alone.<<
THIRDLY. I was planning an informal dinner the night before my wedding and having everyone going to the wedding come out to eat with my FI and I, because it is out of town for most of them and I wanted them to enjoy the city and FI and I’s favorite restaurant. Well, M has decided that she’s planning her own thing for the family and that everyone is already planning on going to her’s, so FI and I should just change our plans to Thursday – WHEN NO ONE WILL BE IN TOWN.
I just have this overwhelming feeling that no one gives a shit about me and my FI. And as you can tell by my date ^, the wedding’s in TWO AND A HALF WEEKS.
Ugh. Rant over! Thanks for the patience!