Post # 17
You really don’t even need to have a bachelorette party, when you think of it! Especially if you are having a bridal shower. Really, the men only get one party, why should you get two?
I bet its probably the cost and the time committment…but mainly the cost. Given today’s economy, and for some reason, I feel like you must be friends with some artists, no one has any money…just us to be married people with our recession packages! lol
Don’t worry. The day is really about you and him. Don’t worry about the bridesmaids. You’re not supposed to worry about the bachelorette party at all anyway!
Post # 18
- Wedding: April 2021 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
I did what pinkparfait suggested. My friends are spread out all over the state so I had my shower and bachelorette party on the same day. It was great! A real "girls weekend." I’m sorry your Vegas trip didn’t work out, I’m sure it’s the cost. One of my good friends had to cancel her Cabo bachelorette party because so many people couldn’t come. We had it in Houston instead, and it was still a blast!
Post # 19
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
If you want a Bridal Party anyway, just plan something local and smaller and your turnout will be a lot better. It would take a whole lot for me to go to a Bridal Party in Vegas… I’d have to have more time and money, first of all, and I’d have to know (and love) all of the girls going… and most bridal parties don’t have all of those things going for them at once!
Post # 20
i was going to do vegas but still decided that 100-150 was too much for the cost of just transportation and hotel.
how much did you guys planning on spending in vegas? my Maid/Matron of Honor was able to get the cost to under 150 without food and entertainment, for food, you could just eat at cheaper places and for entertainment you can goto a club and more likely it will be free to get in and the girls will just have to pay for drinks
Post # 21
Asking people to go away for your party is asking a lot.
You are concerned about a small turnout – but you also say that you haven’t kept in touch with people and don’t want to invite work people, it’s sounding less like this has anything to do with your party and more to do with regrets regarding friendships and desire for a big party not working out.
Start with mending your friendships and do something that is convenient for the people you want there which will help with the turnout.
Post # 22
I was thinking something similar to fabulouslyengaged. With a shower, a wedding, and potentially (for OTT guests and BMs) we’re talking more money and time than most people can offer. Although, you didn’ mention whether or not you are having a shower.
You said, "really haven’t kept in touch with that many people since I started dating my fiance and I really don’t want to invite work members to a bachelorette party." I don’t want to sound mean. I udnerstand life gets busy. But if you haven’t kept your friends as a priority, why is it that important to have this bachelorette? And I’m not saying that they are exacting revenge on you or anything. But if they haven’t been a part of your life for a while, I can understand if they aren’t willing to go to Vegas.
I think you should either decide to go to Vegas with just your Maid/Matron of Honor, or try to have something more local. If it was me, I would jsut skip the bachelorette.
Post # 23
I am my sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor and she went through a ‘vegas’ phase (we both live on the East Coast). I was very nervous to say anything negative about it because she is my sis and I am her Maid/Matron of Honor, but I was secretly praying she would change her mind. It is expensive and you have to take additional vacation days to the ones for the wedding, etc. Ultimately she changed her mind and I couldn’t be happier!
I am like you – I don’t have a huge group of close friends with a savings account labeled "Ms. ModernDaisy’s Bachelorette Party". I was never in a sorority and I moved to NYC a few years ago away from my High School and College friends so we’ve all sort of grown apart. My solution is going to be to have a smallish group of girls up to NYC during the weekend Mr. Moderndaisy is away on his Bachelor party (he is the opposite of me with a million close friends who want to spend their money/time on nothing else but his Bachelor party). We will all crash at my apartment and it will be fun since NYC is close enough to everyone and a very exciting city.