(Closed) No Bachelorette Party

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
351 posts
Helper bee

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ncjacobs:  IF this is what you want. Just invite your friends out to dinner and drinks and not have it be a “bachlorette party event” how about just meet up for dinner and everyone pays for their own way/ split the bill. From your message it seems that what is to hang out with your friends and blow of some steam have a good time, you can do that buy goingout and having fun. it doesn’t have to have bachlorette party associated with it. that being said you would have to be willing to not make that evening about you, and just have it as a night out with friends.

Post # 17
3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

True story, I planned my own bachelorette party and no one died. And it didn’t cost anyone anything more than what they wanted to pay for their own drinks. I just told everyone where I wanted to go and requested that they come in Halloween costumes (it was the weekend before Halloween).


I think you’re thinking too much about this. You can go to a bar on a bike (or in a car, truck, or van) without having to pay to reserve said bar.

Post # 18
360 posts
Helper bee

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ncjacobs:  Just my two cents, but I find nothing wrong with planning it yourself :). I’m doing a private destination wedding (fiancé and I only) so we don’t have bridesmaids or groomsmen. However, my fiances friends planned a weekend bachelor trip for him, so I decided I wanted a bachelorette trip also 🙂 my closest gf and sister live in CA and I’m in OK so I chose to make up my own invites and 6 girls are making the trip. Were doing a weekend getaway and itll really just be a fun girls weekend.   I don’t think theres anything wrong with planning your own party.  It’s all about your perspective on it. If it’s important to get your friends together for a bachelorette celebration and your bridesmaids haven’t taken initiative, then take charge and do it.  You’ll all have a good time and it doesn’t matter who planned it 🙂 

Post # 19
832 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm

I think you should just plan it yourself. Everyone has different stuff. A freind getting married in Oct is having one but here Fiance isn’t. Another friend just threw a girls night at her house before the wedding. My Fiance and I are havinga joint cabin bach party even complete with pink glitter penis wands and pin the bunny tail on the pin up. Both sexes should get their fun even for a joint party.

Post # 20
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I feel you–the same thing happened to me and you know what, I really wish I had just planned my own ‘do. Like you, all I had in mind was just dinner and drinks in the city we live in, nothing fancy that would require tons of planning. The reason I didn’t was because my bridesmaids kept saying they were planning a bridal shower for me (which never ended up happening) and they kept asking what I wanted to do for my bachelorette so I thought they were getting something together. Had I only known, but as they say, hindsight is 20/20. One thing I learned from wedding planning is that if you want something done–or done a certain way–you should probably just do it yourself. I know plenty of brides who planned their own bachelorette…go for it and have fun!

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