- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I wasn’t really sure where to file this post, but I think it fits just as well under the “emotional” tag as it does anywhere else. That’s pretty much exactly how I feel, but I’m not even sure if it’s justified…and I’d like to talk to someone about it, but am not sure where to turn. Hence, I thought you ladies might be able to lend an ear.
So, it looks as though I will not be having any sort of Bachelorette party or Girls’ Night leading up to my wedding, and truth be told, I am feeling kind of sad. I have three bridesmaids standing in my wedding, but of those, one of them is only 12 years old (my little cousin, who I love dearly) and none of them live in the same place as me. One of them (my future sister-in-law) lives all the way across the country, and my Matron of Honour, who is my lifelong best friend and is like a sister to me, lives in a town that is a four-hour drive away. This has been hard, but I’ve been doing just fine with it on pretty much every front except for this one.
I do have plenty of female friends who live in my city, but because I am a slightly older bride (I’m 30) and am somewhat non-traditional (my FI and I own a home together and have been living common-law for 4 years already), it seems that nobody is very enthusiastic about my wedding or any wedding-related activities. Of everyone I know, my Matron of Honour was the only one who even thought/cared to ask about a possible bachelorette party…but she is a Mom to twin 8-month-old boys and is in the process of moving into a new house this summer, so she will not be able to make a trip out to my city at any point before the wedding in order to host/throw one for me. I understand this, and am not upset with her at all. I think I am more sad that no one else (none of my other female friends) has even expressed any form of interest whatsoever.
I am not a major party animal, and would not want anything big, or over-the-top…I’d be fine with a nice dinner and a couple of glasses of wine with my girlfriends. I think more than anything, it would just be nice to have some form of acknowledgement. For someone to recognize that I am indeed getting married, and while it may not be exciting for them, it’s sort of a big deal for me. I don’t know. My feelings may be unreasonable and completely foolish…but I really get the sense that nobody cares. I don’t really feel like planning and hosting my own bachelorette party, either…I honestly do not have enough time or money to be able to manage it. The wedding is enough for me to handle! 🙁
I think this may be compounded by the fact that my mom also isn’t the least bit excited or interested in my wedding. I am her only daughter (and only child, in fact), but her attitude is that it’s pointless/stupid and a waste of money for someone to get married if they are non-religious and are already living with their partner. I disagree…but she feels how she feels.
I don’t even know where I’m going with this. I guess I am just feeling a little bit unimportant, and forgotten…and could use some support. I see other girls with their big happy bachelorette parties and their moms crying in joy with them when they go dress shopping…and I just feel so small. Like no one really notices or sees me at all, even though I am a bride-to-be. Anyone else experience this?
Thanks for listening.