(Closed) No Bachelorette Party…Feeling Small.

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
8170 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

why can’t you plan your own bachelorette party?

invite your girlfriends to join you for dinner, drinks, whatever you want and go from there.

or plan a weekend away to visit your MOH, maybe her husband will watch the kids for a night while the 2 of you go out.







Post # 4
9918 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You might be surprised…I was SURE my friends weren’t even thinking of me, and they surprised me last weekend!  Try not to get upset until, like, August…and then either plan your own or brush it off.  =)

Post # 5
758 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah you should plan this for yourself. If you feel more comfortable, don’t call it a bachelorette party, but just a girl’s night. Everyone feels this way at some moment, like they are the only ones who care about their weddings, but you will get through it. 

I’m so sorry you feel this way and seriously, plan an awesome fun night!

Post # 7
3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@CookieCharmer: My mum and bridesmaids are all in Sweden, I knew early on that I wouldn’t be able to plan the wedding with them around me. Even so… it has been difficult from time to time and I’ve been sad that I couldn’t share this experience with them as I wanted – so I definitely understand if you feel sad and a little left out!

Could you perhaps plan a nice dinner with them just before the wedding? That’s what we’re doing – two sets of activities happening two days before the wedding, followed by a common dinner. Sure, it won’t be glitz and glamour – but I’m fine with that, I’m happy as long as I get some extra time with them. Also, what about including your cousin and her mum in some wedding DIY activities?

Post # 8
28 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

This makes me really sad!


If I were you, I would totally plan something myself. I would try to keep it low-key (sounds like that’s what you want anyway), and just have a girls night. A night out on the town, dinner and a show, a spa day. Heck you could even kick the FI outta the house for the night and have an old school sleepover filled with wine, romantic comedies and truth-or-dare. Hope this helps and I REALLY hope you get to do something special with the gal pals.



P.S. I too have the issue of having none of my family or close friends living near me, so I understand how difficult it can be. Hang in there!

Post # 10
1592 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would plan a simple dinner & drinks outing. If the girls in your town aren’t in your bridal party, they may not think to take the lead.

Post # 12
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@CookieCharmer:   I think more than anything, it would just be nice to have some form of acknowledgement.  For someone to recognize that I am indeed getting married, and while it may not be exciting for them, it’s sort of a big deal for me. 

Hon, that’s what your wedding day is for. They are all coming there to witness it and share it with you. Come on now.

Post # 13
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@CookieCharmer: I’m with ajillity81. Visit your MOH and plan a night out just the two of you *after* she moves. I’m sure she’s not moving the entire length of the summer, so plan it closer to your wedding date if you must, and a 4 hour drive isn’t so bad considering the fun you’ll have together! You can celebrate your upcoming wedding and her new home and maybe her partner can watch the kids or you can chip in for a babysitter for the night. Make a trip of it for yourself. Get away. Enjoy yourself.

If that doesn’t work, I’d send out an email to my friends and say, “Let’s get together! I’m excited to be married and would love to spend some time with all of you, just us girls! Pick a day out of the following three days and the majority rules. We’ll go to _____ restaurant. Just let me know if you’re in by next Wednesday.” Simple, easy, planning.

Good luck and go do it! 🙂

Post # 14
10368 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Have a girls’ night when everyone is in town for the wedding. You’re already having a huge party (ie your wedding) to celebrate with everyone. You don’t need additional parties to celebrate the parties! I know it’s fun, and wonderful to be thought of, but i’m sure if they could, they’d be there in a second to celebrate extra hard with you. Make the best of it, and try and do something special before the wedding.

Post # 16
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@CookieCharmer:  is your date really September 1? You have *TONS* of time! Please do not worry.

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