(Closed) No Bachelorette/Hen Party – so disappointed :(

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@swanchai:  I know what you mean. Most of my friends and family are in another country. FIs family doesn’t really celebrate much of anything… no bachelorette/bridal shower for me. I have two jobs, and though my coworkers aren’t being invited, ladies at each of theses jobs have said “we need to throw you a bachelorette party!” I told them to go right ahead… but no one has. Our wedding is in about a month, and since Christmas and New Years weeks are out, I’m guessing it’s not happening. One coworker today asked me something about when I’m having my bachelorette party and I just shrugged. I feel let down since they brought all this up, not me… but whatever.

Your BMs dropped the ball here a bit :- I think it’s okay to throw yourself one if you really want, as long as you don’t ask other people to pay your way. Organize a fun night out with the ladies… I’m sure they’ll be glad to attend!

Post # 4
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It sounds like a case of “everyone’s job is no one’s job.” By not having someone ‘in charge’ how are they going to know who should coordinate things? They might have thought they would be stepping on someone’s toes – did they know that there wasn’t going to be a MOH? It’s also possible that they didn’t know it was their job to organise the hen’s night – before coming on here, I just assumed bridesmaids had to show up on the day, and the Maid/Matron of Honor organising a party was just an optional extra.

I think just throw a party yourself! It may not be a trip to another country, but even just a night out having a bit of fun could be a good chance to blow off some steam before the wedding!

Post # 5
467 posts
Helper bee

I agree!  Just throw it yourself!  I know its not traditional, but its still something.  Is there any Bridesmaid or Best Man you are more close to?  Maybe you can say something to her an arrange something?  

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