(Closed) No bachlorette Party

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1724 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I can empathize, although in my case, I didn’t have a wedding party. Finances can be a big issue with this stuff – between buying dresses and afford travel for the wedding, maybe your BMs are tapped out? Some people are funny – they’d rather not do anything than put on a very small-scale affair. Maybe they see having something low-budget as offensive to the bride? 

I’m technically throwing my own bachelorette party, but I’ve told everyone it’s a no-gift event. I’m paying for everything. It’s a last-time hurrah with booze, pizza and games at my apartment. If they do wind up getting me a gift – it’s their own prerogative. In my case, though, I throw parties fairly often, so the few folks I’ve invited don’t see it as a cash grab. If anything, the perks for them are obvious!

Maybe give the ones who live close a call and see if they’d just like to go out to a bar, to a club, or even just come over for some wine and Lifetime movies together. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Weddingbelle2013:  I really don’t think bachlorette parties are that imporatant IMO….I didn’t have one and I sure don’t feel that I missed anything by not having one. I’d rather go to the spa with the girls or dinner and movies to be honest. I have never got the whole bachelorette party thing anyway. I only had one Maid/Matron of Honor in my wedding (by choice) and she was in another state as well and I pretty much planned everything myself and didn’t depend on my bridal party to do anything really.

So you think just b/c they didn’t plan a bachelorette party for you that “they have bailed on you”

The most imporatant thing is about them being there for you on the wedding…..not the bachelorette party….

Post # 5
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5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Well…if it’s something you want, why not make that happen?  Maybe your bridal party is toast on planning/buying/spending/doing for you, so why not reach out, find a few friends and make a plan to hit the town and paint it red?  It’s certainly not too late, since the most memorable of nights in my life, happen on the spur of the moment!

Post # 6
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3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I can understand that you’re disappointed if this was something you had expected. However, I have to agree with @weddingbound: The most important thing is them being there for you on the wedding… 


Perhaps they could come in a few days before the wedding instead, so that you can spend time with them then?

Post # 9
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5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Weddingbelle2013:  Ok….well, maybe since you’ve been so very low maintenance, they aren’t aware of your feelings or needs…point is, nothing happens for anyone that refuses to act…I get that your sad, but seriously, call some people and make a plan…it’s not rocket science, it’s a night on the town!

Post # 10
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1112 posts
Bumble bee

I’m not having a bachelorette party either. Do you have any sisters/are you close with your mom? You could always have a “family” girls night before. I will be spending the night at my parents’ house doing pretty much nothing. Haha. I need to relax that night anways. Sorry they dropped the ball. 🙁

Post # 11
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1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I understand. Mine had all these plans for the bachelorette party but didn’t get them together any time they were in town, and now they are saying they’ll do it the night before but I can’t because that would be just way too stressful for me. So I’m planning my own with my in-town friends for the weekend my fiance is at his bachelor party. My Maid/Matron of Honor is pissed about it but, well, she dropped the ball on the planning.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Weddingbelle2013: Sad but understandable. Well, you know – if you do feel very sad about this – perhaps you should mentioning it to your Maid/Matron of Honor, just so that you can discuss it before the wedding. 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Have you directly asked them what you are doing for a bachelorette? What is there response? 

Why didn’t they come to your bridal shower? There’s a big difference between not being able to fly in from another city and living in the same city and just not bothering to show up.  

 

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