Post # 1
So the story goes: I had originally planned to have just 2BMs, my sisters, but neither are able to fly to the UK to be here for various reasons. Instead I have chosen 5 friends to be my BMs but officially no MOHs as this would’ve been my sisters position. The sad thing now is that with 6wks to go before my wedding, there has been no mention of a bachelorette/hen party being arranged 🙁 My FIs best man was on the case arranging the stag before we even had the church booked (they’re all off to Amsterdam next weekend) and here I am with no plan in sight.
Have I brought this on myself bybot officially having a MOH? All my BMs are in touch with each other, I made sure I introduced those who hadn’t met before & exchanged details etc
I’ll admit one Bridesmaid or Best Man did attempt to arrange something around her schedule, with little notice and then she didn’t show (she had flown home from holiday that morning and was ‘really tired’, her words “if you really wanted me to come you should’ve just asked me” – even though she was the one supppsed to be arranging it! What the…?. That night ended up with myself and 2BMs having a quiet night in.
Im here now very sad and disappointed that my friends havent planned anything. Is it my own fault? Do I need to coordinate it myself?
This should be the happiest time, I just feel so let down…
Post # 3
Its not too late! I organised my own for fear of someone arranging something I didn’t like. I’m not having any bridesmaids but I think its more about my female family and friends getting together for a good time. At this time of year lots of hotels are having “party nights” (although they may well be booked up by now). We spent last saturday evening at a motown tribute night for my do- think afro wigs and jumpsuits. Although I picked the date and the type of night I wanted, my sister and a friend rounded up everyone for payment / outfits and they all contributed towards little presents for me – it was fab
Just fire everyone a quick email and sort a date out – how about a New Years eve party / hen party?
Post # 4
I think that unless you tell them you want one and ask them to organise it between them, then some won’t do it
Seems to be a common occurance with UK brides, have seen a few threads on other forums about it, with lack of enthusiasm leading to no hen night or a very quiet one.
at this stage I would recommend you let the girls know you want to do something and ask if they would mind helping? I deligated the organisation of mine to my Maid/Matron of Honor and also one of my friends who wasn’t a Bridesmaid
Post # 5
I planned my own bachelorette. I didn’t have BMs and it was no big deal! I just planned a night of dinner and dancing. We all had a great time.
Post # 6
Im not havin a traditional go out drinking and dancing bachelorette.
Me and my girls are going to go for dinner, pedis, and then hang out I think.
I dont see anything wrong with organizing it yourself. We are pretty well organizing our stag n doe (which is not a bachelorette party…its like a fundraiser dance). But thats because my Maid/Matron of Honor is going through alot right now and I want to help as much as I can.
Post # 7
I say plan your own, or ask them about it.
FH and I are planning ours. I don’t see a problem with it.
Post # 8
As a foreigner living in the UK for the last 30 years, it seems to be that the bride herself organises the hen party. I’ve known at least 10 women get married, and they’ve all organised it themselves.
Post # 9
I say organise it yourself hun! I had no idea of the tradition of Maid/Matron of Honor organising it I was all about to do it myself!
My friend organised hers herself and we had a fab time!!
Go for it xxx