(Closed) No Batchelorette/Hen Party – so disappointed :(

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Its not too late! I organised my own for fear of someone arranging something I didn’t like.                                                                                                                   I’m not having any bridesmaids but I think its more about  my female family and friends getting together for a good time. At this time of year lots of hotels are having “party nights” (although they may well be booked up by now).                                   We spent last saturday evening at a motown tribute night for my do- think afro wigs and jumpsuits. Although I picked the date and the type of night I wanted, my sister and a friend rounded up everyone for payment / outfits and they all contributed towards little presents for me – it was fab

Just fire everyone a quick email and sort a date out – how about a New Years eve party / hen party?

Post # 4
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think that unless you tell them you want one and ask them to organise it between them, then some won’t do it

Seems to be a common occurance with UK brides, have seen a few threads on other forums about it, with lack of enthusiasm leading to no hen night or a very quiet one. 

at this stage I would recommend you let the girls know you want to do something and ask if they would mind helping? I deligated the organisation of mine to my Maid/Matron of Honor and also one of my friends who wasn’t a Bridesmaid

Post # 5
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I planned my own bachelorette. I didn’t have BMs and it was no big deal! I just planned a night of dinner and dancing. We all had a great time.

Post # 6
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Im not havin a traditional go out drinking and dancing bachelorette.

Me and my girls are going to go for dinner, pedis, and then hang out I think. 

I dont see anything wrong with organizing it yourself.  We are pretty well organizing our stag n doe (which is not a bachelorette party…its like a fundraiser dance).  But thats because my Maid/Matron of Honor is going through alot right now and I want to help as much as I can. 


Post # 7
1344 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I say plan your own, or ask them about it.

FH and I are planning ours. I don’t see a problem with it.

Post # 8
919 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015


As a foreigner living in the UK for the last 30 years, it seems to be that the bride herself organises the hen party.  I’ve known at least 10 women get married, and they’ve all organised it themselves.


Post # 9
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I say organise it yourself hun! I had no idea of the tradition of Maid/Matron of Honor organising it I was all about to do it myself!

My friend organised hers herself and we had a fab time!!

Go for it xxx

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