(Closed) No BC on Wedding Night

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: What will you use on your wedding night?
    Barrier method : (17 votes)
    11 %
    Hormonal BC : (78 votes)
    51 %
    Pull out : (14 votes)
    9 %
    Nothing : (34 votes)
    22 %
    No sex for us : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Oral sex only : (0 votes)
    Other : (8 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    1940 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Are you considering this because you are hoping to become pregnant?  If not, you may want to consider using some type of birth control (hormonal, barrier, or perhaps even start charting now).

    Post # 4
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    747 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    i don’t know if we’ll DTD on our wedding night. i’ve heard from a lot of people that so much pressure is put on ‘the wedding night’, but then they’re so tired from the wedding that they just end up passing out. if we do, great, if not, oh well. we live together, so it’s not as though it will be our first (or last!) night together. i’ll be off all BC by then. i think our honeymoon will leave us plenty of time to be alone and make up for anything we don’t do on our wedding night (note to self: bring cranberry juice on honeymoon…)

    Post # 6
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    5183 posts
    Bee Keeper

    so…….I just asked Fiance this and his answer was : condoms. If I were to answer this on my own.. I would have said: nothing. Looks like we have some talking to do… :-/

    Post # 7
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    2522 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Well I use NFP–Creighton Model.  Even though my Fiance wants to “avoid” he doesn’t want to actively avoid during our honeymoon.  That kind of thinking isn’t compatible with how Creighton Method asigns it’s statistics.  Basically you either know you’re fertile or not, you either actively choose to have sex on a fertile day or not.  So when wedding night comes and we go to bed, I will tell him if I’m fertile or not, we will choose at the moment (which we’ve talked about already) if we want to go for it.  However, afterwards, in the process of moving and getting situated we’ll actively avoid fertile periods.  Hopefully that makes sense–it’s important that I let my Creighton instructor know what we were planning since they keep this information to develop it’s studies.

    Post # 8
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    1058 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I have been charting… so when we marry I will have a pretty good idea of my body… hopefully it will be effective!

    Post # 9
    Member
    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We’re not, but we’re hoping to get pregnant right away. 🙂

    Post # 10
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I won’t stop taking the pill for quite some time after the wedding. I would like to have at least a couple of years to spend together as a married couple where we can just focus on eachother before we bring a baby into the mix.

    Post # 11
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    923 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m guessing i may still be on BC at the time – we haven’t exactly nailed down when we’ll start trying officially.

    If I had it my way, I’d probably be off BC by then and we’d just go without any protection.

    Post # 12
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    849 posts
    Busy bee

    I’ll have to be on BC just to control my periods (I have PCOS) so it’s not really an option to be off it. We’ll have to get a new plan once we start TTC after about the first year.

    Post # 13
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    1829 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We don’t want to start conceiving directly after the wedding as we want to spend some time together just the two of us, therefore, we will continue using birth control on our wedding night.  I went off the pill more than a year ago but until we decide that we actually WANT a baby (rather than being at our current stage of ‘eh, getting preggers would be ok, but not the most ideal timing), we won’t go sans BC… as they say, it only takes once!  😉 

    Post # 14
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    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I was (and still am) on hormonal birth control.  We don’t plan on having kids for another 3 years or so at least so we certainly didn’t want to risk getting pregnant on our wedding night!

    Post # 15
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    916 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I voted on nothing and other because my Fiance got a vasectomy a few months ago and by the time of our wedding night, we won’t have to use any additional BC. Laughing

    Post # 16
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    3374 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m pretty sure I’m going to go on BC before the wedding. I’m hoping it doesn’t mess with my hormones or make me break out like crazy though… ugh. We use condoms currently.

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