(Closed) No big O (sex related)

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Can I ask how old you are?

EDIT: I only ask because I couldn’t until I was 26. My friends and I have discussed and they were all the same way.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

It took me a while to feel comfortable enough to reach orgasm with a lot of people, but it came easy (so to speak) with my fiance. It has always been pretty easy with him.

I do tend to find it easier if we’ve had a longer build up, been very dirty (in our own special way) and if I hold a bullet vibe to my clitoris throughout.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

What has really worked for me is kegel exercises. I do them all the time, and especially during foreplay. IMO, the best way to help your chances of having an orgasm is to do a lot of foreplay (which you guys sound like you do), do your kegels, and start out on top. This allows you to control the level of penetration, speed, etc. Also, it allows you to do your exercises while he can stimulate you in other ways. I can orgasm from clitoral and penetration stimulation but I prefer orgasms from penetration as they are stronger and last longer. It works for us 100% of the time, but everyone is different. I wish you luck my dear!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Most people can’t acheive orgasm through penetration alone, it’s actually more common than you think. It might just be a matter of lots of experimentation and foreplay with your partner to find what works for you! 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Most women can’t orgasm from sex alone.  Have you tried giving yourself a had while having sex?

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Bao: I just edited my comment, but for me and most of my friends this was something that wasnt acheivable until our mid 20’s.  I think you learn your body better by then if that makes sense.  This may sound strange, but I noticed that if I dirty talked (even just in my head) it helped me move it along. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Try positions that provide clitoral stimulation. For the longest time, the only way I could get off was if I was on top, because then I could adjust the speed, angle, and other various things that make this sound like a physics lab. 🙂

ETA: Also what Ms.ChubbyBunny said about Kegels. It sounds like we have the same sex style. Ha!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I could have made this thread myself. I have the same problem but still totally enjoy sex with FH, just never any big O. I’m 24 though and hoping you “mid 20’s” ladies are right!! I would be inclined to do it so much more often if it had an end benefit for me too.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I have this exact problem! And I SELL sex toys. I always feel hypocritical when I’m telling women, “this one is said to give the best O”

 

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Try using positions where you ( or he) can manually stimulate your clitoris while he is occupied elsewhere.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I can only with vibrating toys, oral or when I am on top.  It takes me a long time, and usually lubrication.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@Elvis: I was reading your comment, and I was like, “hey, that’s what I do!”. haha If it works, it works!!

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