(Closed) No BM or GM at our wedding…Anyone else NOT having bridesmaids?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well no, but that was because we had 11 people at our ceremony!

But I’ve gone to a couple weddings in which the couple only had themselves and/or 1 attendant, a Maid/Matron of Honor like you are doing. One wedding that had no official attendants still had people giving readings, which was nice. I think it’s totally fine to have no attendants if you don’t want them!

I also know that at the typical French wedding, they don’t really have anyone over 6 in the wedding party, so they don’t have BMs or GMs. 

Post # 4
949 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m having no bridal party, and it’s been great! My only slight regret is that it doesn’t give my close friends an official role for being involved in the wedding planning, but I think we’ll have as much or more fun doing DIY projects together as we would have dealing with bridesmaid dresses and accessories. 

Post # 5
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We are not having any bridesmaids or groomsmen, and it has been fantastic and drama free. We’ve been so pleased with our decision so far. 

Post # 6
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Bridal parties really aren’t a tradition here in Iceland. The groom has a best man, usually the grooms father, and the brides father stands by her side.

But our daughter will be a flower girl.

Post # 8
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are going to have our kids (his 2 daughters and my two dogs) stand with us in lieu of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Although we have several close friends and family members, we don’t feel right selecting a few to stand with us; also our wedding is pretty small (50 people) so it would be odd to have 25% of the guests in the wedding party. Fiance and I are both very excited about it. 

Post # 9
286 posts
Helper bee

we’re not having any! (:

Post # 11
389 posts
Helper bee

Whatever you choose to do will be fine.  I’ve put together weddings both ways and they are all special.  Your way is more non-traditional, but there are really no rights and wrongs.  Do make sure though that your BFFs are in plenty of photos with you and your Fiance.  Good luck!

Post # 12
5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We didn’t! I simply couldn’t choose among my closest 9 female friends, and my Darling Husband would have had only 3 or 4. So it was easier to just chuck it. No regrets!!

Post # 13
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

I know of about 9 to 10 couples that did not have a wedding party. No BMs or GMs and no honor spots. Most of the grooms and brides walked down the “aisle” together. When it time for the rings to be exchanges the brides most often just handed their bouquet to a guest and then pick it up on the way down the “aisle”. Some were married on the beach, a few in beach homes and a few were married in parks. Their weddings didn’t lack anything, they were all very nice.


Post # 14
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We haven’t finalized it, but we’re leaning toward having no attendants.  So cool to see that others have done that! 

Post # 15
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We didn’t have any. We’re still basking in the glow of our drama-free ceremony ;-).

But seriously, bridal party regret posts are a daily occurance around here. So not worth it.

Post # 16
4606 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t think I will be having any. I’m not really close to that many people anymore,p and I honestly don’t think that my best friend would be much help as far as the wedding planning goes for a long list of reasons. My other friend who I know is going to help me would be a better candidate, but I don’t know if shed actually want to do it. So to avoid any drama that might arise if I picked my other friend over my best friend, I’m probably just not going to have any. I have enough drama as it is with my own family, I wouldn’t want to add anymore into the mix.

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