(Closed) no BMs, I have a question

posted 10 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
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2640 posts
Sugar bee

I’m not sure if I follow you.  Why can’t you ask friends who have young children to be BMs?  Are the childen going to the wedding?  Do your friends have family who can wtach the kids for the wedding?  I think it would be OK too to see if someone could just help you get dresses.  I’d vote for one of your original BMs.  They’ve done it before, and probably feel they were honored enough the first time.  Just my opinion.

Post # 4
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1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Sometimes, even when brides don’t have BMs, they’ll ask their friends to help them get ready or sit with them before the ceremony. You could consider this, to honor their friendship, without requiring them to perform any other "maids" responsibilities and you can still stand up alone with your Fiance and the boys.

Could someone else watch the kids? Would the room be too crowded if your friends and the kids all hung out with you? If they wouldn’t be too restless, this might be a good compromise. I would conisder it an honor to keep the bride company and help her get ready, even if I weren’t a "bridesmaid"…

Post # 5
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596 posts
Busy bee

I think it’s okay to ask a few girlfriends to come help you get ready – I’m sure they will understand that they can’t be official bridesmaids, since you and Fiance agreed on not having them.  I think Mrs. LoveBug did this and it worked out just fine!  Can the dads or another friend watch the young kids for a little bit before the wedding?

Post # 6
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7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Are you opposed to having one MOH?  My sis is going to be mine.  There have been weddings I’ve been to where the bm’s (in your case could be one , the moh) went down the aisle, then sat down on the front row..then you and your kids could be only ones going up to altar!  I saw that in 2 weddings in fact.

Post # 8
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7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Glad you asked them.  It’s perfectly fine to ask them too!  Are you doing a guestbook or have a special reading?  They could be included that way without being "in" the wedding party itself and still feel special.  Or just maybe get them a corsage or something.

You have wonderful friends..congrats again Ms. Sea Otter!

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