(Closed) No Bouquet/Garter Toss: Will Single Folk Feel Left Out?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 76
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Busy bee

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rckeeper :  I doubt anyone will miss it. most weddings I’ve been to did not have the boquet toss (including my own), and literally zero had the garter thing. nobody complained. 

Post # 77
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I refused to ever be apart of a bouget toss. Fighting for flowers like it means I’ll get married next. Ick. No. and I wont have it at my wedding. 

Post # 78
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Bumble bee

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lauralaura123 :  He just broke up with his boyfriend and is frantically trying to find a date for his roommate’s wedding since he RSVPed for 2.  So, not so good 🙁  Maybe his roommate’s bouquet will be luckier?

Post # 79
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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rckeeper :  I am not doing either one either. The only thing I would change is maybe a dance for all couples, not just married ones. I don’t suggest this to avoid people being left out, but to acknowledge that a long term commuted relationship is just as valuable without marriage. I was with my fiancé for a long time and felt like some people just didn’t value our relationship as much as married people. I think you’ll still have the same affect, because most likely the last people standing will still be a long term married couple. Just a thought. 

Post # 80
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Worker bee

I think you have a pretty clear objective to celebrate meaningful and everlasting love. So have the dance for couples and leave out the bouquet toss. I second what PP suggested – it is more inclusive and celebrates all stages of relationships. 

Post # 81
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Buzzing bee

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rckeeper :  I don’t think there is a single person in the world who actually looks forward to the bouqet toss or garter belt toss or takes any of it seriously. I think you are doing the single folk a favor by leaving those out! 

Post # 82
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Ack, I went to a wedding this weekend with bouquet toss, garter AND money dance! (Flower girl got the bouquet and would not put it down all night, it was cute.)

Post # 85
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas

Won’t be doing the bouquet toss or garter thing. Always made me feel uncomfortable anyways.

I will, however, be doing the ‘Generational Dance’ where all the married couples go out on the dance floor, and dance while the DJ calls out various years, until only a single couple is left. We’re pretty sure it will be Fiance great-grandparents. We’ll then give them a hug and present them with the toss bouquet as a thank you.

I’m not really worried about offending single people with this. They don’t have to get up and be singled out. And if seeing happily married couples dancing is awful, then they can just disappear to our open bar for a few minutes. 🙂

We also won’t be forcing every married couple to do this either. I think we’ll get a few couples to do it, and it will be nice ‘wedding’ type of thing to do, without resorting to traditions that I don’t like.

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