Post # 1
I’m a newbee to all of this – so possibly first of many posts….
Bit of background: Am a brit hindu, engaged to a lovely canadian christian – thus essentially planning 2 events: hindu (&legal) ceremony in england and few months later a christian ceremony/service in canada. Trying to do both ‘properly’ but will probably need to compromise.
Have booked england venue (over a year in advance as learning the hard way that reasonably priced venues get booked up fast) so whilst thinking about it thought I’d ‘quickly’ do invitations. Nightmare!!! Currently disgaree with mother re: wording of invite. In particular whether the sentence:
“no boxed gifts please”
is appropriate on an invite. I don’t like it as it suggests people ought to bring a gift and is almost like asking for money. I know most people will want to, but surely thats their choice? I thought the nicer thing would be to put website details on invite instead and details on there instead (like ‘no boxed gifts please’ or a giftlist – though in reality gifts would probably be a bit of a pain as we don’t even know if we’ll settle in england or canada).
Had found this wedding stuff quite fun until got stuck!!! Any advice appreciated…
Post # 3
I’m going with you and not your mother on this one. While it’s totally okay currently to put registry and gift information on a website, it should never appear on the printed invitation. I’d put an enclosure in with the invitation that has the website and any other pertinent details.
Post # 4
What is it that you would want to recieve in lieu of boxed gifts? Checks? Donations? Unboxed gifts? 🙂 I would find that a little confusing.
Post # 5
I am going to agree with you. That line has no place on the invite and would be better suited to the website!!
Post # 6
I agree that you should put that sort of info only on the website not on the invite.
Instead of ‘no boxed gifts’ maybe you could word it in a positive way like ‘We do not have a registry because we may be moving in the near future; gift certificates appreciated from ___________________’.
Post # 7
Definitely go with the website. I wouldn’t put anything about gifts on the actual invitation. And to me “boxed gifts” is very ambiguous.
Post # 8
I really think that should only be on a website. If you don’t want to get gifts, you shouldn’t have a registry and maybe put a little note on the website about why you don’t have one and suggest gift cards for a certain store.
Post # 9
Yes, definitely put gift info on a website, and not on the invite. Btw, “no boxed gifts” would confuse me too. My first reaction was to think that you didn’t want wrapped gifts b/c you’re trying to save the environment, but I wouldn’t necessarily take it to mean that you want gift certificates / cash.
Post # 10
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I definitely agree with you! Put it on the website!
And “no boxed gifts” would really confuse me – what exactly does that mean?
Post # 11
NO mention of gifts should be in the invite…even if you said NO gifts, period, I wouldn’t put it in the invite.
Post # 12
Don’t put it on the invite, but put it on the website. I think it’d be okay to just say on the website why you’re asking for no boxed gifts. I think it’s a pain to transport gifts from my parents to our apartment, only 4 hours, much less continent to continent.
Post # 13
Mom’s right. It’s not a good idea. It’s also a confusing statement.
Post # 14
Not appropriate on invite – you can describe the situation on your website as others have suggested. Good luck with everything!
Post # 15
Thanks for the feedback – and so fast!
I think I’ll be veto-ing Mum on this one so have plenty of time to think about wording for website. I think something along the lines of cvbee’s suggestion is appropriate.
I agree that the wording is confusing/rude, though possibly not as bad as a friend’s invitation a few months ago that said “Monetary gifts only please.” !!!
Post # 16
Lots of brides are including a card with invitations saying we are registered at the following: and list the bridal registry store and registry number.
In lieu of that, and due to the fact that SOME people do not have or use computers, I would not think it would be rude to include an extra card with the invitations saying basically what you have said here.
“We have not chosen a bridal registry as we are unsure where we will settle and are trying to keep our moving expenses to a minimum.”
They can certainly draw their own conclusions and send a check.