Post # 1
My fiance and I really don’t want a bridal party. This is a first marriage for both of us, but we are in our 40’s and not interested in the drama. Who else is going without bridesmaids & groomsmen AND who are you having to do those jobs? This may sound silly, but my gown has a cathedral train and I don’t know who will straighten it for me when I get down the aisle.
Post # 2
Could you hire a day-of coordinator? There’s really not any other “jobs” bridesmaids are expected to do but a coordinator can at least fix your train for you. 🙂
Post # 3
Maybe you can save a seat on the aisle for a family member or close friend and ask them if they would be willing to straighten your train for you?
Post # 4
We didn’t have a bridal party. I didn’t have anyone straighten my train bc it didn’t cross my mind. I had two friends help me bustle my train.
Post # 5
I’m not doing a bridal party. I see their only “job” to walk down the aisle and wear the right outfit.
If you use a DOC (you really should) they will presumably be at the start of the aisle, because part of their job is to cue the bridal party/anyone walking down the aisle. They can straighten your train.
Post # 6
I’m not trying to talk you into having a bridal party, but just an FYI. We didn’t want a wedding party either and that caused drama too. My sister that I’m really not close with at all assumed she’d be maid of honour before we told anyone we weren’t doing that, and my family was very unimpressed. (They wanted her to do it too).
Post # 7
We only had a best man and maid of honour and we didn’t give them any tasks other than to be our legal witnesses and to walk down the aisle (and then be seated before my entrance). I didn’t have anyone straighten my train, alhough mine wasn’t that long. Maybe ask a family member to straighten it once you are up?
Post # 8
Your planner or day of coordinator can help with your train.
Post # 9
any children in your family? traditionally straightening the train was the job of a page boy.
Post # 10
I didn’t realize bridal parties added drama. I’ve been in many weddings and it was always fun and drama free.
but anyways, have your FH help with the dress. Or hire someone to do it.
Post # 11
I’m curious what you mean by “drama”?
Do you just mean you don’t want to deal with the pain in the ass of trying to coordinate a bunch of people? If so, I feel that and it is littwhy we are only having a Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor.
But if you mean you think having a bridal party will mean a bunch of stupid fights and emotional bullshit that is… Quite surprising for someone in their 40s!
You don’t have to have a bridal party if you don’t want one, obviously. But I’d hope that at 40 you don’t have a bunch of catty high school friends.
Post # 12
I don’t know what “jobs” the bridal party has aside from standing next to you during your ceremony, or why in your 40s your closest friends are people who you think will cause “drama”….all that aside you can just have a good friend, DOC, sibling or cousin, or literally pretty much anyone straighten your train.
Post # 13
I went with no bridal party as well. There was a coordinator at the church and another one at the venue that came with the bookings. I also asked some family members and close friends to help out with some stuff (distribute corsages/bouts, introduce entrances, help me change into different outfits, pass out tips, etc..)
Post # 14
We didn’t have a bridal party either. It didn’t cause any issues with our family or friends. My dress didn’t have a train, but my mom (and maybe/probably the venue’s event coordinator, I honestly can’t remember) helped with dress adjustments and bustling.
Post # 15
My good friend just got married and did not have a bridal party.
I hosted a surprise bachelorette for her.
Her best friend who lives out of province gave a speech. A few of us (close friends) stopped by her hotel room shortly before hte wedding to see her get into her dress and take a few pictures.