Post # 1
So I’m only really having my sister as an attendent in the wedding. She’s been great with helping out on different DIY projects and styling – however she really isn’t interested in organizing anything like a bridal shower or bachelorette. I’m fine with it – I understand that it’s a lot for one person to take on. No hard feelings – I wasn’t even planning on having anything besides just my wedding weekend.
In the past month or so, I’ve been getting tons of questions and prodding about planning some girly-type events – a few of my close friends have offered to organize which is so generous. The thing is that my group of friends is very disjointed – so not that many people know each other – there is also a big geographic divide between my girlfriends since I’ve moved around a lot in the past 10 years.
What I”m trying to figure out is if it’s weird if I basically give an itinerary and suggested guest list to the friends who have offered to organize the events? I feel like if I’ve got all of this already, I might as well just organize it myself but I don’t think that’s correct etiquette.
Any suggestions on how to execute this scenario?
Post # 3
If they want to organise it then I say let them 🙂 and it is ok to provide them with a guest list as it is not expected that they know every person in your life that should be invited 🙂
Other than that let them have free reign (ok maybe with the power of veto to you haha) and let them take on the “stress” of organising it I am sure you have many other things to organise especially being 3 months out 🙂
Post # 4
@lmoss78: What I”m trying to figure out is if it’s weird if I basically give an itinerary and suggested guest list to the friends who have offered to organize the events?
Yes, this exactly what you do. You are not allowed to throw your own party. Showers have to be thrown in your honor but I am sure your friends would not mind if you assisted them a little.
Post # 5
Thanks for the advice! I think I was getting thrown because everyone seemed to be asking me what was being planned – including my sister/MOH. I think I was being asked, instead of my sister, because my sister lives 8 hours away from me and none of my close friends really know her. I’m lucky that after I responded ‘um, I dunno – probably nothing’ that some friends offered to help out.
I emailed one of my best friends today to see if she’ll be able to help organize. Fingers crossed!
Post # 6
I only have two witnesses and my friend is planning my bachelorette. I don’t think I am having a shower because really, that isn’t my thing but if someone were to have one for me, I’d attend.
Post # 7
@expecting rain: I feel the same way – I really don’t care either way but I’m at the point now where I think it would be easier if I had specifics to give the people asking me about it instead of dealing with their surprised reactions where I tell that nothing is planned. I didn’t have a bridal party essentially so I didn’t have to deal with all the girly-type things, but it now seems inevitable.