Post # 1
I was MIA for couple of months.
Wanted to share with you and get opinions on bridal shower.
I’ve chatted with my bridesmaids and my mom and decided not to have a bridal shower. From my understanding, bridal showers are for brides to get useful gifts and stuff for the house and the marriage. But me and my Fiance live together for 3 years and don’t need anything, we don’t even have a gift registry for our wedding. Even though a bridal shower sounds fun, but I also didn’t want my bridesmaids to spend money on something a bit unnecessary for me.
What do you Bees think? Are people going to be disappointed if I don’t have a bridal shower? Or will they be happy not to spend money yet on another gift?
Post # 2
practicalbee: Im in the UK so bridal showers aren’t a thing yet, but I don’t see why anyone would be upset at you choosing not to have one. Sounds like you have thought about it and if you are happy not to have one then I don’t see it being an issue.
Post # 3
I didn’t have one. My sister threw me a high tea instead. Tea-related gifts only. It still got all the ladies in my life together and we had a great time.
Post # 4
i’m not having one – simply because everyone lives all over the place! there aren’t enough ladies in any one place to warrant a shower (and it’s kinda ridiculous to have 90% of the shower guests to travel from out of town). my mom and sister were disappointed at first, but quickly got over it. instead, we are going to use those funds to throw a welcome reception cocktail hour for all guests the night before the wedding (since everyone will be from OOT).
Post # 5
I’m not having one. My Maid/Matron of Honor offered, and I declined. I have everything I need. And showers are the most boring, lame parties ever. Easiest decision I’ve made during wedding planning so far.
Post # 6
My BFF had a lingerie shower instead of a bridal shower. It was lots of fun, and she got tons of cute lingerie for her honeymoon!
Post # 7
I’m not having one and I don’t think anyone will miss it. If someone in my life desperately wanted to throw me a bridal shower I’d be flattered and would participate, but from what you’ve written it sounds like that’s not the case here otherwise I’m sure somebody would have said something to you.
Post # 8
Most people I know really don’t like attending showers, but do so out of obligation. So if a friend decided not to have one, we’d all be silently cheering. 🙂
Post # 9
practicalbee: “Or will they be happy not to spend money yet on another gift?”
Post # 10
I didn’t (and won’t) have a bridal shower. We’ve been living together for 6 years and I’m just not a fan of these types of things. As far as I know no one was disappointed (or even noticed).
Post # 11
I always thought of bridal showers as another way to get more gifts, which is an obnoxious thing, in my mind. I didn’t have one, and I’m sure your guests are relieved deep down.
Post # 12
I didn’t have a shower either. We had a short engagement (6 months), and I thought that doing all of the traditional things (shower/bachelorette) during such a short timeframe would be asking too much, and too financially burdensome on friends and family. It worked out fine. It would have been fun to have a shower, but I’m sure that my friends were secretly relieved. 😉
Post # 13
I’m not interested in a bridal shower, either, mainly because we have almost everything and the things we would like are just way too expensive to ask for as a gift, lol. (I want a new mattress, haha.) Iplan on having a celebatory something, though! I’d provide food, booze, entertainment, etc. It’s about getting together with people.
Post # 14
practicalbee: If you think it could be an issue to not have one, and/or you still want to get your ladies together for a fun gathering, you could always have a non-traditional shower. The host could request that in lieu of a gift, the guests bring their favorite recipes (some may bring the ingredients too, I’ve seen that, or a cookbook). Or they could send out cute cards and have guests fill them out wiht marriage advice, date ideas. Idk if it’s cheesy, but each card could have s a number on it, which stands for your year of marriage, and they write down where they think you’ll be on your 4th anniversary, 13th etc. But I would definitely call it a bridal lunch or brunch, not a shower, so that it’s clear it’s not a gift-giving occasion.
People go crazy with showers – they do not have to be expensive! You can do brunch-y foods for cheap or just have sandwiches, chips, tea, something like that.
OR don’t have one 🙂 It’s your wedding, and you’d be the guest of honor, so do what makes you comfortable!
Post # 15
practicalbee: people will be glad not to need to buy a gift. However, I think you should still have a fun, casual (no gifts) party to hang with your girl friends and relatives. I love pp’s idea of a tea party! A manicure party, appetizer/cocktail party, movie party, or even (depending on your crowd) an adult product party would all be fun and low stress!
It was nice if you to be considerate of others!