(Closed) No Bridal shower or Bachelorette party

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m not having either. Everyone lives so far away so it seemed like a hassle. it was my decision though since it didn’t matter to me. It doesn’t have to be something planned though you could always invite people out to celebrate berore the wedding 

Post # 3
6331 posts
Bee Keeper

A lot of my friends moved away last year after completing our residencies, and my hobbies are more solitary than group activities. As a result, I don’t really have a desire for a bridal shower or bachelorette party though it’s possible my work might have some sort of event. I’m just thrilled that we’re getting married!

Post # 4
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m probably not going to have either one. We are planning from another state, away from all family and friends, and do not plan to invite a ton of friends to the wedding. I’m kinda bummed, but only because I would love to see my BFF sooner than the actual wedding. 

Post # 5
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m not having either and I’m pretty happy about it. We are having a destination wedding and our friends and family all live in other provinces.

Post # 6
304 posts
Helper bee

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Celliaanne:  I understand being upset or feeling hurt, however, I totally think it’s fine to plan a bachelorette party yourself :).  People have busy lives, work, children etc.  I have a private destination wedding so Fiance and I don’t have bridesmaids/groomsman.  My fiance’s friends are throwing him a bachelor trip weekend so I decided I wanted one.  I planned it myself and have 5 girls making the trip (3 are from out of state).  It is totally fine to plan your own trip and invite friends.  I don’t understand what the big stigma is about the bride not supposed to plan it herself.  If you want a bachelorette party, you can make it happen :). 

Post # 7
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Just a suggestion, but my bachelorette consisted of hanging out with my bridesmaids in our hotel room the night before the wedding (husband and I wanted to spend the night before separately)\. My Maid/Matron of Honor put together a few fun games (personalized/wedding Cards Against Humanity and a prevideotaped “Newlywed Game”), but we mostly just hung out, had a few drinks and chatted. It was pretty awesome.

Maybe do something like that? No one really has to plan that much, it just depends if anyone is able/willing to spend the night in the hotel. I actually suggested it as 3/5 bridemaids live out of town and we are all in our late 20s or 30s and kind of past our crazy bachelorette party days. Usually people are in town by then so it is easier to get together.

Post # 8
2037 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Me, but the type of wedding we’re having doesn’t make a shower or bachelorette appropriate.

Post # 9
474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m not going to have one. Although knowing my MoH, that won’t fly. IF I do anything, I’d like to go to a fancy dinner with my friends. I’m not into cheese, and Fiance and I are both picky about tradition (meaning we are only following a few), so tiaras and sashes and strip clubs aren’t my style. Gifts either. I don’t want them. 

How about you just organize a dinner at your favorite restaurant with some friends and family? As like a last “single harah”.

Post # 10
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens

I’m not having either, nor an engagement party. We’re having a small intimate wedding, so none of that stuff is happening. It will be the wedding day only.

Post # 11
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I totally understand where your coming from. We just moved out of state from where are wedding is. My Maid/Matron of Honor is in another state and super busy and doesn’t know any of my friends. My mom half hearted offered but hasn’t fallen through with anything so I know it won’t happen.

i don’t like being the center of attention but my finance is gone for his bachelor wrrkend now and it made me kinda sad…


Post # 12
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I planned my oand was fun! If you want one then plan it!

Post # 13
4682 posts
Honey bee

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Celliaanne:  I see nothing wrong with throwing your own bachelorette party. It’s not like there are any gift giving expectations. Keep it casual. Invite your best girls out for drinks or throw a brunch at your house or something. Just keep it light and fun!

Post # 14
644 posts
Busy bee

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Celliaanne:  I agree with the others – plan a night out yourself! (But don’t ask people to pay for you, of course!)

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