Post # 1
I’m thinking about our actual ceremony, which will take place in a very grand, catholic church. My Fiance and I were talking and we’re thinking about doing away with the typical “bride side/groom side” detail.
He will likely have far fewer guests attend the actual ceremony and we’d hate for the guests to look lop sided
Any of you guys do this? how did you have people seated?
Post # 3
We plan on letting people sit wherever they want. We’re not having ushers, but maybe I’ll have the groomsmen let people know they can choose their own seat, if people look confused.
Post # 4
Maybe you could have the usher tell them to sit where they like? someone a few days ago was posting about this and was going to make a sign that said something like “dont pick a side, pick a seat” but it was way more creative than that.
Post # 5
We are having the same issue: i have a huuuuuge family and his is very small, and few of them are likely to attend. Basically, everybody will sit wherever they want.
Post # 6
@blondie_bride: we’re having the same issue with the not so many guests on his side attending, and we are actually using an idea brought up by a bee (can’t remember which one! ahhh!) and using a recycled window from an old farm house, and displaying it on an easle. it will read “don’t choose a side, pick a seat. we’re all about unity here.” or if you’re having ushers, they can also tell people your wishes as well. 😀 hope it helps.
Post # 8
@iheartnerds: I like your idea, we wont have ushers too and I was trying to figure out how to handle that.
Post # 9
In our case it’s the opposite, I won’t have too many ppl from my family come (long story) so we are having our Groomsmen tell people they can sit where they want. I’m reserving the first 2 rows for my girls and my parents only.
Post # 10
Yeah I am not having a bride/groom side. It is two families coming together so everybody can sit where they please.
Post # 11
@blondie_bride: We had ushers, but told them to just lead them to first available pew, or let them sit where ever, we didn’t have specific sides, espec since my family is bigger
Post # 12
@blondie_bride: we told our ushers to let everyone sit where they pleased. The first two rows on each side were reserved for family and that was it. When i look at the pictures though it seems everyone just divided them selves to a bride and groom side anyways…i think people are just used to it.
One of the brides on the bees though made a little picture that said something along the lines that we are all family and friends so sit where ever you please….it was cute
Post # 13
We are just going to have everyone sit whever they want. Its been like 10 years since I’ve been to a wedding that had a bride/groom side. Just have your ushers tell people to sit where they like
Post # 14
We didn’t have ushers because we just let everyone sit wherever they wanted. It worked out just fine.
Post # 15
We didn’t have specific sides, we had the usher take people to the first available pew. 🙂
Post # 16
For my first wedding, we had two issues with bride/groom side. First, the bride and groom sides are reversed in a Jewish ceremony. So his Jewish relatives and my nonJewish ones could easily have ended up all on the same side. Second, I had about 10 people there and he had about 70, so the sides would have been very unbalanced. We just had the ushers seat people to the first available pew.