(Closed) No bridesmaids?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Following as we are planning no wedding party, just us. (As in no bridesmaids or groomsmen). 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 7 months ago by Blueghostgirl.
Post # 3
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Helper bee

We aren’t having a bridal party either so I am following this.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

That’s a very controversial view about the role of bridesmaids that you’ve heard.  All those tasks that you’ve mentioned are best left to paid vendors.  If anything, sometimes people expect bridesmaids to organize a bridal shower and/or bachelorette party. From what I’ve seen in the bee, there have been instances where actually having bridesmaids can be very stressful.  I think you’ll be perfectly fine without them!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Following as we aren’t having a wedding party either. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee

I only have a maid of honor and he has a best man. Best decision made. No drama.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We aren’t going to have a bridal party. I didn’t want to deal with the headache. We haven’t had our wedding yet so I can’t give you advice. 

My mother and sister will throw me a shower. I don’t really want a bachelorette party and will probably do a girls weekend and since I am the planner in my group they would rather leave it to me anyway. 

The things you are saying in terms of helping day of, you can ask friends for that help bridal party or not if you need it. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

In my first wedding, I had a bridal party, but they didn’t help with anything, I didn’t expect them to. To me bridesmaids are just people you wish to include in your wedding as important people in your life, who you wish to have at your side on your big day, not servants. 

This time around, I’m not having bridesmaids, and again, since I never expect them to do anything, it’s not a problem. I plan on getting a wedding planner, but if I don’t, I plan on hiring help for the setting of the tables, decorations, etc. The only thing I expect from bridesmaids is to show up pretty and happy.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m also only having an Maid/Matron of Honor and Fiance is having a best man 🙂 I just wanted my BEST friend to be standing there with me….

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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asobos:  I am like you and don’t really want a hen’s night/ bachelorette or anything. For me it feels irrelevant as I have lived with my SO for over 3 years and there isn’t a last night of whatever it is supposed to represent. 

The only reason I would want bridesmaids would be to honor my closest friends but as we are only inviting about 20 friends, and the rest will be family, then it would be difficult to pick out of those 20. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

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anonkimmy:  We didn’t have a bridal party at all, and everything worked out fine. We had almost zero stress because there were no other people involved. Also, it’s not the job of the bridal party to help set up, etc. The only job they have is to stand up next to you during the ceremony. If you need help with setting up your venue, etc., you hire people/wedding planner to do that. As far as getting ready, by all means invite some friends to join you for some champagne, snacks, and giggles while they help you get into your dress. Or just to be there with you. Nothing wrong with that. 🙂  

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I’m not having bridesmaids. I’ll still be getting ready with my sisters the morning of and will sit at a table with them during the reception, but outside of that they’ll be just like a regular wedding guest. It just seems an unnecessary extra to me. As for help the the day of I’ll have a wedding planner who will take care of the set up. 

I wouldn’t necessarily say it’s a bridesmaids job to help set up tables and deal with vendors. It might be easier to get a DOC for that.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

We are doing one Maid/Matron of Honor & a best man. We made a joke about it on our program “(don’t worry, we do have friends!)” 

My family, Mother-In-Law & SILs will get ready with me. As far as decorating, both families are helping the night before.

NO regrets!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

I’m not having any bridesmaids or wedding party. Maybe I would if my wedding were bigger and I could rely on my “best friend” more. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

No bridal party. It’s not the norm in our culture, although quite a few people are starting to borrow the concept from American weddings. I could not be happier with my decision — I have a lot of friends getting married right now, and there always seems to be bridesmaid drama going on (“Kelly picked a $400 Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, WTF” “Jess didn’t order her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress on time and now it’s not going to fit properly at the wedding” “I didn’t want to ask Katy to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man but I asked all the other friends in the group so I had to ask her” etc. etc. etc.). I didn’t want a shower or bachelorette party, which I thought was one of the upsides to my decision, but everyone else seems to love those things so I’m getting both.

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