Post # 1
This is more of a frustrated rant then a major problem, but I needed to get it off my chest.
I plan on getting married in june of next year, and though I know that I have 10 months to plan and fix, or arrange, it just seems silly that I cant think of anyone to be my Maid/Matron of Honor or think of any bridesmaids. I grew up as a girl surrounded by guys. I didn’t have a lot of gal pals, but I guess I prefered it that way. I was not one for drama and mess, even if my home life was a mess (Which it always was). Now I am sure that you are all thinking “Emily, you need to relax. You still have 10 months! Things will work out.” But I like planning things right away. I am one who needs that stability of knowing exactly what is going to happen. I want everything to be a good experience, and with as little stress as possible for both me, and my Fiance. I thought of having a man of honor, and I laughed thinking of pairing him up with my FI’s best man. Both of them are crazy and crack sarcastic (if not slightly rude) jokes all the time. Putting them together would have me dieing of laughter at the alter! So maybe that is what I will do. I don’t know, it is just something I wanted to get out of the way, as soon as possible, and it seems that I have to wait.
Looking back at the paragraph I just typed out, I sound like a bridezilla… That’s really not what I want, its just that I like things to be relatively stress free. I have pretty severe anxiety, and it is hard to deal with all the stress of my every day life, and then on top of that have to worry about wedding duties. I really do want things to be great for everyone, and whether I have bridesmaids or not will not affect the love I have and will share with the people at my wedding. I was just frustrated and needed to vent, I guess. Thanks for listening bees.
Post # 2
Nothing says you have to have bridesmaids. My mom is my Maid/Matron of Honor & I have no bridesmaids. Im perfectly happy with it. Fiance just has a best man.
Post # 3
I didn’t have anyone stand up with me. Just my groom and I. We had close friends sign the marriage license and my sisters, friends, and their little girls all hung out and got ready with me. But we decided early on that the potential stress of having a bridal party wasn’t worth it for us.
We have been married a year almost and haven’t regretted it yet.
Post # 4
I say do what you want! If you don’t feel strongly enough about anyone to be in your Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaid I would just go without. (In my opinion) it is better to not have a bridesmaid at all than than to ask someone you don’t really care about to be in your wedding.
Post # 5
I’m not having bridesmaids either! I have lots of friends who would love to and 2 amazing sisters but it’s a Small wedding and my family will all be watching. We might have our children stand up with us but it’ll just be the two of us up there! My mom or sister can sign the license, easy peasy!
Post # 6
We didn’t have bridesmaids and it was great! I had one flower girl and our parents brought us our rings from the front aisles. Good luck!
Post # 7
mrfordsgirl : im not doing any bridesmaids. Only moh ( my sis) and flower girls and ring bearers. Less stress. You dont neeeeeed bridemaids. It wil be perfect
Post # 8
I personally find the “Man Of Honor” to be a very funny and cute idea!
I’m assuming this also means you have no sisters or female cousins that you are semi close with.
I’ve heard some people don’t have maid of honors or best men sometimes, they are really just special witnesses that get to be in wedding photos really.
I think you should do man of honor, if he’s your best friend (Aside from your soon-to-be) you should go for it. It’s not a big deal.
Not like some random stranger is going to be at your wedding confused as to why you have an extra man standing beside you ha!
Post # 9
mrfordsgirl : I didn’t have any bridesmaids either. Only a Maid/Matron of Honor, the one female cousin on my dad’s side of the family. Glad too, no drama, and I don’t have anyone that I didn’t want in my wedding photos many years later. 😉
Post # 10
I’m not having any bridesmaids or a Maid/Matron of Honor. My fiance will be having his two adult sons stand up with him but I don’t feel pressured to “match numbers”. I might even borrow one of the two sons to be my man of honour! I have 4-5 close female friends who I would happily choose if I wanted attendants but I just don’t.
Post # 11
I dont plan on having bridesmaids either. I have people that are important to me from all different points in my life to have all of them or choose just one or two. Also, one person I would have cosidered maybe 6 months ago I wouldnt now and you see so many people regretting their Bridesmaid or Best Man choice.
I think if you have best guy friend, do it! A friend ad an all-male bridal party – her best friend and 2 brothers. Another friend had a man of honour (her best friend) and 2 bridesmaids.
All the best!! 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2016 - Beck Rec center
I have no Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor I don’t have the patience to be bothered with personalities on top of all the other stresses
Post # 13
We went to a wedding where there was just the best man and a man of honour.
The guys each escorted a flower girl on the way out and it was adorable!
I say do what you want. Having the people you love there is all that matters!
Post # 14
No bridesmaids here either. My fiance’s best friend is officiating the wedding. Our friends will all the attending the wedding as guests. It’s been very stress free not organizing a bridal party.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
No bridal party here either. For us it was an extra cog in the wedding machine that we didn’t feel we needed. The family and friends who would have been a part of the bridal party instead get to attend as guests and just enjoy themselves.