- 10 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I never dreamed of having them. I’m the oldest of 4 with 3 younger brothers. I was a tomboy growing up and I hate the way most bridesmaid dresses look.
When my fiance and I got married I knew I’d need a “Bridal Party”. First thought in my mind was my little brother, even though he towers over me. There’s no one else I’d want standing there with me, but my family and my fiance.
Well my fiance asked his brother to be his best man partly on my request, but he does have a best friend that he wanted in the grooms party. So he has two and I have one. I normally am a very even person and the asymetrical has been bothering me, but I don’t know what to do. Also, my Fiance thinks I’ll want a female there on my wedding day to do something (not really sure what).
While I could ask a good friend of mine, I don’t want to. Part of me says it’s all because I know they can’t afford it. The dress I found that I liked for her is $200 and her husband’s (the groomsman) tux rental is $170 and the trip to Chattanooga is a lot. I know they are always on a tight budget (leaving pennies in their bank account before payday) so I know they couldn’t afford it, and I don’t have $200 in my budget to buy a dress I know she’d never wear again.The other part of me knows that without our SOs we wouldn’t be good friends We have nothing in common. In fact I hate quite a few of her favorite things and vice versa. So I would stress out that come day of when I want to go for a hike or catch a baseball game at the local bar for lunch she’d be annoyed about it.
The only positive thought I’ve had about the whole wedding party thing is that there will be 4 guys and me. The number of guys will be even and that could go for some interesting shots, and there’s nothing I’d be more comfotable around then guys (I just wish at least one of them was into sports)
Sorry to rant..but after typing it all out. I think It’ll be okay. I may have one of my younger brothers wear a grey suit and have him stand in for pictures if I get on edge. But it’s also kind of fitting the bridal party is 3 and I have 3 brothers. My OCD number is also 3 so I guess 3 is just my lucky number.