Post # 1
Am I the only one who isn’t having bridesmaids or groomsmen? I do have a Maid/Matron of Honor. Fiancé has a best man. Our 2 daughters & my cousin’s daughter will be flower girls. I’ve had some crazy looks and gasps when I tell people our wedding won’t have bridesmaids or groomsmen. It’s going to be a small wedding, only about 30 guests. So I don’t see the big deal!!
Post # 3
I am not planning on having any attendants at all. Not even a Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man. We are also planning a small wedding (50-60) people. And I think our wedding will be very non-wedding-ish. I asked my sister and best friend this week if they’d be upset and all I’ve gotten on response is it’s my wedding and I can do whatever I want. It will also help keep some costs down, I hope.
Post # 4
Etiquette Snob here… lol
There is nothing wrong with having a Small Bridal Party or NONE.
The choice is yours.
My best advice is no matter what you decide… BIG or small is to take the time to figure out what it is YOU WANT from your Bridal Party in regards to their role, responsibilities & expenses
I suggest you start by taking a look at BOTH “traditional” and “modern” Rules of Etiquette, and going from there
Modern Rules you can find in a variety of places…
As for “traditional”, I’ve done several posts here on WBee about them…
The key thing is making sure that everyone is on the same page before you get too far down the road to making plans.
Because where stuff hits the skids (including friendships) is when the Bridal Party see the commitment as being too much work and outlay of cash… against what the Couple is getting out of the agreement
Things are much better when the playing field is a lot more even (especially in regards to time & money)
Hope this helps,
Post # 5
There’s nothing wrong with that at all! You’ll have your most special people next to you and that’s what’s important.
Post # 6
Nothing wrong with that at all! We might not have a bridal party either 🙂
Post # 7
We don’t have any bridal party, including a Bridesmaid or Best Man or MOH! Aside from my grandmother suggesting that our wedding wouldn’t be legal (lol!), no one’s been too fussed about it. Do what you want and rock it! 🙂
Post # 8
@BlushingBride3814: Nope! Ill fight my fiance till I’m blue in the face but I absolutely refuse to have either. Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man are fine, whatever but I strongly believe a wedding is a ceremony between TWO people.. not twelve people sniffling, coughing and staring at me from 3 ft away while I’m possibly making one of the biggest decisions Ill ever make.
Post # 9
not engaged, but don’t want bridesbaids or groomsmen when I do get married! only Maid/Matron of Honor and Bestman, but I also want an intimate and laid-back wedding 🙂
Post # 10
I might not have a bridal party either, just an Maid/Matron of Honor and a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I haven’t been to a wedding without a bridal party, but I have definitely heard of them.
Post # 11
glad I asked this b/c feel much better about it now! While I love vintage style and some classic elements, I would not consider us to be a “traditional” couple. I actually wasn’t planning on having a Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man but my fiancé had already asked his best friend to be his best man. Its surprising b/c he’s even more untraditional than I am lol.
Post # 12
@BlushingBride3814: My Fiance is having a best man and possibly a groosman – I am having no attendants whatsoever. I just can’t picture asking my friends to do it, and I want a really simple ceremony without live “props.” That sounds bad, but I just mean for me, my whole guest list is full of close friends and they all are meaningful and important to me… I don’t need one or two of them standing in the front in a particular dress.
Post # 13
@BlushingBride3814: We won’t be having any bridal party, as we’re planning on having a wedding for only 15 people!
Post # 14
@BlushingBride3814: I had wanted no BMs or GMs but when I found out that my siblings’ feelings were being hurt, I changed my mind. I see nothing wrong with keeping it simple up front. Too many times have I seen hoardes of people standing next to the B&G. To me, it looks ridiculous.
Post # 15
We r having no bridal party whatsoever. No flower children or ring bearers, ushers, anything. It was the BEST decision ever. On the other hand, I didn’t get a shower or any parties or any gifts.
Post # 16
i feel for that amount of guests you have more than enough people in your bridal party