(Closed) No Bridesmaids??

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
484 posts
Helper bee

hi Bonniejane, looks like you are new to Weddingbee. Check out the posts by Mrs Lovebug. She and her now husband basically fired their wedding party and chose to stand alone. Their wedding was beautiful and she found creative ways to include her friends.

As for me, we’re sticking to family only so I have my Brother-In-Law, my sister and my neice on my side and my FH has his brothers on his. It was just easier for us to do it this way and very low stress. (and I only mention this here so you can see an example of non-traditional wedding party)

You will need someone to sign your marriage license so just keep that in mind when planning…that person does not have to physically stand up for you though.

Post # 4
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3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

My fiance & I are standing up there alone too- at both ceremonies. (One religious ceremony w/ family in Canada & a private legal on the beach wedding for the 2 of us in the USA).

To us, it made sense for it to be just us. We’ve come through so much together… and we have a lot more obstacles to deal with in the future, so it just felt right.

I, like Mrs. Lovebug, am assigning close friends & relative Non-Bridesmaid duties as well and they’ve gladly accepted!

Its your day. Do what you want & do what feels right to you as a couple!

Post # 6
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1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

Yes. I’ve talked about it with my groom before we got officially engaged. We have been in complete agreement.  The reasons are: easier, more affordable, don’t have to pick favorites of friends, focus on us and  God—the reason why we are all gathered together.

It’s disappointing when a few friends disagreed with my decision and tried to convince me otherwise and my hubby-to-be said one of his friends called him weird, but we both just keep affirming our decision to  keep the focus on the  marriage instead of the production.

 Occasionally I am bothered that I can’t add too much color, interest or beauty by including friends  by deep down, that is not as important and seems fleeting to me personally.

I’m full  speed ahead with the wedding 7 months from now and  1 month into the  planning process but I really am excited. I would say I’m semi-traditional with pretty traditional wedding  style friends.  I’m ok with being different and unique but I’m nervous a bit about being ‘too’ out there. I really think the idea of just keeping the covenant of marriage the focus is essential.  I will pick my virtual maid of honor (the one who has been helping me along just as a real one would)  to be the witness if my fiance agrees.  

 Hope  this  helps. Jot down an update on your thoughts if you get a chance.

Post # 7
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700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just keep in mind, and this goes for ALL of us, that your wedding is  YOUR wedding.  If you decide to stand alone, then it’s still going to be a lovely wedding.  You don’t have to play by any cookie cutter rules!  Go for it!

Post # 8
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199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We are just having oner person on each side because we need witnesses. My SIL (brother’s fiancee) is standing on my side and my brother is standing on FH’s side. It is just so much easier like that, my SIL is having 15 bridesmaides and my brother 15 groomsmen.

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