(Closed) No bridesmaids=no drama right?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

None for me.  

I fancy neither a shower nor hen night and rarely really enjoyed having to be a BM in the past.  (too much time/money/histrionics).  

I am considerably older than the average bee, however.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

LOL I predict you will still have drama.  There will be women who expected to be asked, or women that feel hurt they aren’t asked, or women who think that you aren’t having them just so you don’t have to ask them because you don’t want them…. No matter which way you go, there’s someone out there who can make your wedding choices dramatic.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m not! Well, I’m having one and its my sister. She’s the MOH. It’s been great and certainly less drama, I highly recommend it!

Post # 6
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12100 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

my friend is having no BM’s (Not even her sister) and it’s still causing drama – she’s been a BM a few times.

Post # 8
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6361 posts
Bee Keeper

pretty much, I have neither so far :).

Though, this applies to groomsmen too…don’t assume only bridesmaids create drama. There may still be mommy and daddy drama, especially for those whose parents are contributing financially, but that’s another story.

No bridal party = longer life, lol!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@dicapriosimaginarywife:  someone will give you a little drama. wait for it. lol i have 2 and mine are cool as a fan. i don’t bug them and hey don’t bug me. i send out emails when i have important info or to just make them feel like they’re in a wedding lol (so out of obligation i guess).

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We didn’t have a bridal party either. DH couldn’t think of enough guys that he valued and trusted in that position, and I didn’t want to include ladies out of obligation (e.g. SIL). There was some drama initially because some people expected to be asked (e.g. SIL) but it was minimal. I’m happy I didn’t have one, although I’m supportive of others who do have one.

Oh, and I didn’t have a shower or a bachelorette either. It’s a financial burden on the hosts and I don’t like being the center of attention like that anyway.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

FI’s mom seemed a little frustrated that I’m only having two MOHs and no BP, but she wasn’t too dramitic about it. We excluded his close female cousins and my brothers to avoid stress/drama.

Post # 13
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367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

None here, just a MOH and BM. We planned to have a bigger party, they caused us grief, we fired them. MUCH beter without.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had 3 bridesmaids, 0 drama. If you pick wisely and have realistic expectations, you won’t have any drama. 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@fishbone:  +1!

This was me exactly too… 3 & not one bit if drama. (Plus they are in their 30s-40s so all grown up)

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@dicapriosimaginarywife:  No bridesmaids, no MOH, no groomsmen, no shower. We’re having a very heartfelt ceremony followed by a reception/party with all the people we love the most.  And, for us, it’s absolutely perfect.  I don’t know that this cuts down the drama, but it eliminates so many stressful decisions.

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