(Closed) No budget for Rehearsal Dinner

posted 11 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Would it be offensive to ask that everyone pick up their own tab at a rehearsal dinner?



    Don't have one at all

  • Post # 3
    7 posts
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I don’t think its terrible. After my rehearsal at the church, my family plans on having everyone over our house and just order pizza and relax before the big day. No stuffy formal dinners, just a relaxing time. It might be a little rude to ask people to pay for their own meal. If it would come to that, then I advise not to have the formal sit down dinner. Have something cheaper afterwards. If you don’t like that idea leave the rehearsal dinner idea alone. Who says we have to stick to tradition?

    Post # 4
    68 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Perhaps instead of a dinner you could go out to a nicer bar and have drinks to draw the evening to a close.  This way its more casual, and each person could cover their own beverages or tab. 


    Post # 5
    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I’m not sure how I feel about everyone picking up their own tab at a restaurant.  But, there are other things you can do!  Why don’t you have a bbq at someones house afterwards?  Or even a pot-luck dinner (where everyone brings a dish).

    Food should be no problem, its really about the precelebration to your special day.  ๐Ÿ™‚  You should definitely have a dinner afterwards (IMO)

    Good luck and let us know what you choose!

    Post # 6
    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    My first thoughts were how about pizza or a potluck, so in my opinion you are already getting pretty good advice ๐Ÿ™‚ I wouldn’t ask people to pay for themselves, just do something more casual and less expensive.

    Post # 8
    717 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I would vote for first having a cheaper meal that you pay for at someone’s house but since that sounds like not an option then I would vote for no dinner.  Where is everyone staying?  Are you going home 1.5 hours away?

    Post # 9
    343 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    We had a pizza party for about $1000, 3/4 of which went to rental fees (there’s a party space upstairs in our apartment complex and we rented chairs) and liquor.  Perhaps a local pizza place has a party space.  It might be fairly inexpensive on a Thursday night.  People stayed until 2AM, so they must have enjoyed it, despite how much it was lacking in fancy.

    Post # 11
    7086 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think a bbq at the condo (if they get it) would be great.  We are doing a bbq at our house for ours, FH is a huge bbqer, so it is perfect for us.

    Post # 12
    171 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m not having one at this point.  I think I’m going to go with the girls to get our nails done so probably go thru a drive thru and everyone else go home and those who go back to our place will have pizza.  I’m an encore bride too so tradition goes out window for us…lol

    Post # 13
    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We had one friend get Boston Market food to go and another get pizza…. I really don’t think it’d be a big deal if you guys did something simple like that! I’m not sure if that would fit into your budget, but you don’t necessarily need to have a rehearsal dinner if it doesn’t work financially. The people who would attend would probably know a bit about your budget situation anyway, so I’m sure they would understand ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 14
    526 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @Miss Marine:  It would be extremely rude to ask everyone to pick up their own check.  However, you don’t have to invite all the Out of Town guests to your rehearsal.  Keep it to the parents and the wedding party and their SO’s and do something simple but if you have one, you have to pay.

    Post # 15
    313 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I had a no-host “rehearsal dinner.” My thought process was that we felt no need to host more than one party throughout the weekend. We were paying for the wedding ourselves and could not afford to pay for a second dinner. We also were having a very small wedding where nearly everyone was from out of town, and no rehearsal, so we really did not feel the need to have a traditional rehearsal dinner—what is the point of having a rehearsal dinner that is almost as big as the wedding? We also thought that our families would still want to see us the night before, though. So we had a no-host “day before dinner” at an inexpensive restaurant for our immediate families and the best man/MOH. We explicitly did not call it a “rehearsal dinner” and made it very clear ahead of time that it was no host. Everyone had to eat, so we were going to do it together, but it was not a hosted event.

    People make recommendations of other cheap options you could host yourself instead of having a no-host rehearsal dinner, but those were just not possible for me. My husband and I share a one-bedroom apartment, so there was not room to invite people over and order pizza or make something inexpensive. We did not have other family in the area who could host at their home. It was the fall, so the weather was not hospitable for an outdoor bbq in a park. And I live in an expensive city, so there are not inexpensive restaurants/pizza shops in the area where we could rent a party room and feed people inexpensively.

    I did not think it was a big deal at all to not pay for people’s food the night before the wedding. I don’t see why a wedding has to turn into an entire weekend of hosted events. You are already having a wedding, why should your guests expect you to feed them on your dime all weekend long?

    Post # 16
    8375 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think a BBQ sounds ideal. Asking your guests to pick up the tab at your rehearsal dinner is less than desirable. You could do BBQ for as cheap as $10 a person, easily! I’ve been to one ultra casual one–it was catered by an italian place on a super budget. She asked all her bridesmaids to bring a dessert, and she rented a pavilion in a park for only $50!!

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