(Closed) NO cake cutting ritual? Have you seen (ahem, NOT seen) this?

posted 7 years ago in Food
  • poll: No cake-cutting ritual -- okay?
    Totally okay -- it's your wedding, do what you want! : (31 votes)
    65 %
    Keep the small cake and tradition since it's not that much money saved/spent in comparison. : (6 votes)
    13 %
    No one will notice you didn't do it! : (11 votes)
    23 %
    Other explanation... : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

    I would hesitate to call a tradition “dumb” or “old” (most traditions are, in any case, old…) but we also did not have a cake cutting – or even a cake.  My family made a big deal about it ahead of time, but absolutely no one missed the cake (we had other plated desserts) and no one mentioned that they thought it was weird we didn’t have a cutting – we don’t miss those pictures, and we didn’t have to miss any time dancing to take them!  We are totally happy with our decision, so I say go for it!

    Post # 4
    3601 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    I have only gotten to see the cake cutting at one wedding. I never notice that I didn’t get to see it.

    Post # 5
    3758 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    You definitely don’t have to do it if you don’t want but I don’t think you need to be calling it a dumb tradition… a little uncalled for.

    Post # 6
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I loved my cake and it was great to have those pictures. But it’s your wedding and if you don’t want to cut the cake I don’t think it’s weird at all.

    Post # 7
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    We didn’t have a cake cutting. I hate being center of attention so we cut out all of that stuff (cake cutting, bouquet toss, first dance, etc). I think it just depends on you and if it’s something that you’d like to do. If it’s not a big deal and you wouldn’t miss it, then I think it’s fine to skip it.

    Post # 9
    5095 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011


    lol – If you say something offensive, adding “no offense” doesn’t automatically make it all better!

    We’re probably not doing a cake cutting.

    Post # 10
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I don’t see the point in cake-cutting, but I’m doing it anyways for the sake of tradition and for the pictures (half of our wedding will be for the pictures actually). If you don’t want to do it, you don’t have to! It’s your wedding!

    Plus, no one’s likely to miss it.

    Post # 11
    347 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We skipped the cake all together (well, kinda).  We had mini pies and we did cut one large pie.  We also had a grooms cake with a fish – it ended up being more for looks because no one really ate the cake…. 

    Post # 12
    1243 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We had a pretty small cake that was traditonal English fruitcake (my mom made it).  My husband did NOT want to do the whole “cake cutting thing”, but the cake was small, and it still needed to get cut.  The plan was to just put out the cake knife and let people serve themselves, as it was on our dessert buffet.  DH also belived that because the cake was “gross fruitcake” no one would eat it.

    Cue to wedding night: no one would touch the cake until it was cut.  So, we tried to cut it quietly.  It was on our dessert table which was not in the centre of the room or obvious at all.  We just wanted to cut the damn cake so we could give some to his grandparents.  Everyone stopped and watched…took pictures…it was the exact opposite of what we were going for.  

    So, my advice is if you’re not going to cut the cake, have the venue cut it for you (after it’s been displayed) or don’t have a cake at all.  People won’t get it and you will be annoyed.

    In other news, everyone ate the cake (there was none left over and thankfully I was able to have some of my mom’s fruitcake at Christmas because I didn’t get a piece) and people raved about it.  LOL

    Post # 13
    2320 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    One of my best friends who is a devout Christian, they skipped the cake and  took communion together instead. Actually, they skipped the cake altogether and just went with a potluck style dessert table. It was nice!

    Post # 14
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We’re doing one, and I’m excited about it for no practical reason at all, but I think it’s totally fine to skip it. I agree with PPs who have said that you’ll want to have the cake pre-cut or something though so guests will understand.

    Post # 16
    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it’s fair to call it a “dumb tradition” if no one knows the point of it.

    I’m thinking of not doing it myself, but would be more inclined to if someone knew the reasons behind the tradition. (which would make it less “dumb.”)


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