Post # 1
One of the ways we discussed cutting costs is to completely cut out our cake-cutting ritual in our reception. The cake we were going with was just a small two-tiered cake and very simple anyway so I know we’d only save like $150 doing it but it’s still something.
Really the cake cutting to me seems like a dumb/old tradition (no offense). If we were able to have the big beautiful cake we’d still do it but with such a small one it seems silly, doesn’t it?
So have you seen this taken out of receptions? Does anyone really care?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I would hesitate to call a tradition “dumb” or “old” (most traditions are, in any case, old…) but we also did not have a cake cutting – or even a cake. My family made a big deal about it ahead of time, but absolutely no one missed the cake (we had other plated desserts) and no one mentioned that they thought it was weird we didn’t have a cutting – we don’t miss those pictures, and we didn’t have to miss any time dancing to take them! We are totally happy with our decision, so I say go for it!
Post # 4
I have only gotten to see the cake cutting at one wedding. I never notice that I didn’t get to see it.
Post # 5
You definitely don’t have to do it if you don’t want but I don’t think you need to be calling it a dumb tradition… a little uncalled for.
Post # 6
I loved my cake and it was great to have those pictures. But it’s your wedding and if you don’t want to cut the cake I don’t think it’s weird at all.
Post # 7
We didn’t have a cake cutting. I hate being center of attention so we cut out all of that stuff (cake cutting, bouquet toss, first dance, etc). I think it just depends on you and if it’s something that you’d like to do. If it’s not a big deal and you wouldn’t miss it, then I think it’s fine to skip it.
Post # 8
I said no offense…so I’m sorry I offended some of you. Like I said I think it’s sort of dumb to do it if I have an itty-bitty cake we’re cutting.
Post # 9
lol – If you say something offensive, adding “no offense” doesn’t automatically make it all better!
We’re probably not doing a cake cutting.
Post # 10
I don’t see the point in cake-cutting, but I’m doing it anyways for the sake of tradition and for the pictures (half of our wedding will be for the pictures actually). If you don’t want to do it, you don’t have to! It’s your wedding!
Plus, no one’s likely to miss it.
Post # 11
We skipped the cake all together (well, kinda). We had mini pies and we did cut one large pie. We also had a grooms cake with a fish – it ended up being more for looks because no one really ate the cake….
Post # 12
We had a pretty small cake that was traditonal English fruitcake (my mom made it). My husband did NOT want to do the whole “cake cutting thing”, but the cake was small, and it still needed to get cut. The plan was to just put out the cake knife and let people serve themselves, as it was on our dessert buffet. DH also belived that because the cake was “gross fruitcake” no one would eat it.
Cue to wedding night: no one would touch the cake until it was cut. So, we tried to cut it quietly. It was on our dessert table which was not in the centre of the room or obvious at all. We just wanted to cut the damn cake so we could give some to his grandparents. Everyone stopped and watched…took pictures…it was the exact opposite of what we were going for.
So, my advice is if you’re not going to cut the cake, have the venue cut it for you (after it’s been displayed) or don’t have a cake at all. People won’t get it and you will be annoyed.
In other news, everyone ate the cake (there was none left over and thankfully I was able to have some of my mom’s fruitcake at Christmas because I didn’t get a piece) and people raved about it. LOL
Post # 13
One of my best friends who is a devout Christian, they skipped the cake and took communion together instead. Actually, they skipped the cake altogether and just went with a potluck style dessert table. It was nice!
Post # 14
We’re doing one, and I’m excited about it for no practical reason at all, but I think it’s totally fine to skip it. I agree with PPs who have said that you’ll want to have the cake pre-cut or something though so guests will understand.
Post # 15
@mightywombat: I’m not sure what the point is of a forum if I can’t voice my own opinion? I’m not trying to be nasty or anything, just saying.
Post # 16
I think it’s fair to call it a “dumb tradition” if no one knows the point of it.
I’m thinking of not doing it myself, but would be more inclined to if someone knew the reasons behind the tradition. (which would make it less “dumb.”)