Post # 1
Hi bees, I need your help again! FI and I are goign to the courthouse and then having two wedding receptions, one on each coast. For one reception, I need help figuring out if we need to choose a different venue, based on what our schedule of events will be like at the reception. We are not having a ceremony, and our preferred venue doesn’t allow amplified music, so what do we do from 1 to 6pm!??!?
I am deliberating over two venues (they are both quasi-reserved for me right now). They are both garden spaces next to historic houses (no access to the house).
1. One garden is a bit more formal (think beautiful english garden) in a cute, sleepy little town where we can walk to the beach after for the sunset. This is our preferred venue. It is smaller space wise (75 people max) and costs more (not sure yet maybe $825, they are deliberating as it’s a new venue). It is really very beautiful and quiet. But no amplified music is allowed. I can’t tell you how pretty it is though – it’s surrounded by roses!, and my parents will be staying right nearby in that town for a month before the wedding (they live on the other coast). Oh we would have some chamber music.
2. The second is in downtown in kind of a seedy neighborhood, but once you enter the garden it is quite lovely – a bigger space than the other with both shady and sunny areas, and a big pretty tree. plus we can use the carriage house for catering prep (the other one we wouldnt’ have access to the carriage house). Its more flexible with the number of people (not sure of the max) and only is $300. We could also have amplified music/dancing here, and could even set up lawn games like croquet.
Now that I type it out it seems like venue #2 is a no brainer. It’s just that the location is terrible, and the other one is SO PRETTY in a town that we love. We really want #1. And no, there aren’t any other options that we are considering since this is going to happen on August 2nd which is right around the corner!!
What else could I add to the schedule?
1pm Cocktail Hour and chamber music
1:30 Entrance and some speeches?
2 pm Buffet lunch served
3 pm …. more speeches???
4pm Dessert served (thinking ice cream sundaes)
5 pm More cocktails???
6pm Walk to the beach to watch the sunset?
Please help! 🙂
Post # 2
oh and the second one is right next to the highway. 🙁
Post # 3
Dont forget the bouqet and garter toss!
For venue #2, if you leave before it’s dark it shouldn’t be too bad. 6 pm is usually pre-crime hours.lol
Can you hear the highway from the garden?
Post # 4
DMV21 – i don’t think we’ll be doing a bouquet and garter toss, most of my friends are bitter single 30 somethings who i don’t think would appreciate it! lol.
Yes you can hear the highway from the garden. it’s literally just over the fence. 🙁
this is a photo from the roof of the house at garden #2, showing you how close it is.
Post # 5
Post # 6
Just because a venue is available for certain hours (1-6pm) at a defined price doesn’t mean you necessaily have to use all those hours.
If people are coming for cocktails and lunch, it would not be unexpected that the event would end by at least 5 pm, so people can leave and have dinner at their own pace and choice of location. An afternoon reception need not extend well into the evening.
Just because you envision a romantic walk to the beach at sunset doesn’t mean all your guests will join you.
I would serve dessert right after lunch, then simply allow people to socialize.
I am of the opinion that you don’t need games etc at a wedding reception. People love to socialize and visit with those they may not have seen for a while.
I would choose the venue that you love, have quiet chamber music in the background and have a wonderful time.
Post # 7
I’m just worried it will be boring. Are there any other items you guys have on your program other than the typical ceremony, cocktail hour, grand entrance, dinner, cut cake, flower toss, dancing? If I’m just having cocktails, speeches, lunch, dessert, can you think of anything else to include?
I guess it could be from 1 to 5pm.
We’re going to look at the venues again…
Post # 8
Is your group a fan of lawn games like cornhole or ladder golf? My family loves those and they would be perfect in a garden setting. I have never seen the “Shoe Game” done in person, but have seen Bees have it in their wedding recaps and it seems like it is usually a success, if you googled it I’m sure you could figure out how it’s done, but it’s mostly a trivia game. You could extend questions to the guests as well (they could ask you and your husband questions of their own). Personally I hate dancing and all that BUT for a reception I do think music and dancing is nice because it’s more to do, but if you really don’t like venue 2 (and it sounds like you don’t) I would have a 1-4 or 1-5 reception with casual lawn games (so people don’t feel required to join in), socializing and cocktails after lunch.
Post # 9
i’m sad. i feel like neither venue is right, but i really can’t find anything else in our extremely expensive area.
my parents say it doesn’t matter ‘it’s just one day, just make your decisions as quickly as possible and do whatever is easiest. you won’t even remember it in a few years.’
my FI says everyone can just sit around and drink for 5 hours (his family and friends are all borderline alcoholics, while my parents don’t drink a drop.)
having so much trouble with this whole wedding planning thing. 🙁
Post # 10
Gwendolyn88: Maybe play some fun games? Like that one where you each get each other’s shoe and someone asks questions about you two as a couple and you hold up whoever’s shoe is most accurate.
Post # 11
Instead of a guestbook, we are doing a confession booth. Our guests will be asked to be recorded on a video camera 1) congratulating us and saying how excited they are to be there 2) giving us a piece of advice for marriage success and 3) where they think we will be in 5 years. That can take some time to get everyone in there. We are going to build a PVC cube/room and hang fabric for walls.
Post # 12
You could also do a photo scavenger hunt. Scope out the area beforehand so that you know what silly props people will be able to find within walking distance. Give them 8-10 items to check off their list like 1) get a pic with a stranger 2) get a pic wearing funny hats 3) get a pic of the most beautiful thing you see, etc. You will be the judge and have door prizes for the best photo for each item. They can team up by themselves, maybe 2-4 people per group.