(Closed) No chairs for ceremony-rant

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Which option sounds better?
    1. All standing in bigger area : (15 votes)
    52 %
    2. Some sitting in smaller area : (9 votes)
    31 %
    3. Other, will post. : (5 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    That’s disappointing that it won’t be exactly like you imagined, but you can still have a beautiful ceremony with either option. I don’t think standing for 30 min is that bad, but you will definitely need at least a few chairs for guests who aren’t able to stand that long.

    Post # 5
    11356 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Is the reception going to be held indoors at the same location?  If so, would the venue allow you to also have the ceremony indoors — in the same area that will be set up for the reception, even IF guests have to be seated at tables that are already set up for the reception? At least that way, everyone could be seated and you wouldn’t have a time limit. 

    Afterward, the bridal party could go outside on the balcony for pics and then out on the grass below for pics, while guests either stayed at the tables awaiting the reception or went outside onto the balcony (however many guests want to and would be able to fit) or out onto the grass to watch the bridal party having pics taken.

    It’s not ideal, I know. However, I do not think you can expect any frail, elderly guests or other guests whose physical conditions will not allow them stand for long periods to be forced to stand for 30 minnutes.

    Post # 6
    4193 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    This will depend on your guest list, but I know that over half of our family guests would not be comfortable standing for 1/2 hour. Also- as a guest, I wouldn’t want to have to stand for 1/2 an hour in heels, either. Especially if you have rain- I don’t want my heels sinking in mud.

    Post # 8
    4465 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    People may not think that standing for 30 minutes is that bad, but I will offer another view on it.  I was recently at a wedding where the ceremony was outdoor standing room only.  However, no one arrives at the ceremony 30 seconds before it starts.  You have to get there early, park your car, etc.  In this case, we took a bus (provided by bride and groom) to get there, which arrived about 30-45 minutes before the ceremony.

    It was such a hassle standing there.  Our heels kept sinking in the grass and we all had to end up standing barefoot.  Everyone was hot/sweating and there was no shade.  During the ceremony, everyone was shifting around uncomfortably, even those of us that weren’t elderly or disabled.  We were rushing inside when it was time for the reception.

    I would vote for at least having SOME seating available.

    Post # 9
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I don’t know what I’d do.

    In a pinch you could probably get away with borrowing/renting wheelchairs for elderly guests just for that portion, I know some would feel wierd using them but there’s absolutely nothing the venue could say about that, right?

    If people are early can you gather inside or on the patio with seats so standing around is reduced?

    Give guests the option of watching from above seated or standing room only? Kind of like a concert, seating on the balcony, standing room below?

    Post # 10
    913 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Another bee just posted about hay bales…

    Post # 11
    11167 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I think it entirely depends on your guest list to be honest.

    If it were my wedding with my guest list I would say chairs were a must as I have several elderly relatives that absolutely cannot under any circumstances stand for that long. It just isn’t possible. I also have many relatives that probably wouldn’t come simply because of the chair issue, they demand comfort.

    If you think your guests are capable of standing that whole time (and longer as  PP mentioned) then go for it. I have stood during a ceremony on the beach and it wasn’t that bad BUT the bride and groom made it clear that we would be standing so I wore the appropriate shoes.


    Post # 12
    2442 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Is it possible to have benches of some sort?  I’m assuming the venue doesn’t want the legs of the chairs poking holes in the grass.  Of course, if this is the case, you have to pick the right kind of benches.  

    Post # 13
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    @hotchildinthecity:  I agree with this.  30(+) minutes is a long time for anybody to stand outside in the sun, not just the elderly and disabled.  

    Post # 14
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @sailor:  Agreed. I would not enjoy standing that long.

    If its informal, perhaps picnic blankets? That doesn’t solve the elderly problem, though. 🙁

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