(Closed) No Children Allowed in Ceremony Starting September?

posted 5 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
12068 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MarieeToBee:  I can’t imagine a sweeping ban by the Catholic church preventing children.  Perhaps a specific church has decided this – although it sounds very un-Christian to me.

Post # 4
3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’d imagine that would be pretty big news if the whole Catholic church did it.  

Post # 5
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

sounds church specific to me, not for all churches. i think its v unlikely the hwole catholic church would say this

Post # 7
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

somebody is VERY misinformed.

Post # 8
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MarieeToBee:  I’d say it would be a church rule decided upon by the particular priest there.
I know one of the priests we dealt with leading up to our wedding really stressed thinking long and hard about the inclusion of children because of their capacity to interfere with a wedding, and when it’s a Catholic mass it can be disruptful to the priest or whoever is giving mass. I totally understand their thinking in this regard, especially if you are having a mass. However, if you’re just having a Catholic ceremony I’d say that would be different. Yet again, it would likely be left to the priest to decide. A little child could cry no matter if they’re involved in the wedding or not, and I can’t see them banning all children from the ceremony entirely, so I don’t really see what they would be gaining.

Post # 9
3697 posts
Sugar bee

I’m certain this is local to that parish, not institution-wide (or even diocese-wide).

Post # 10
730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Umm, no. Parishes can make their own rules though about what they allow (the church we got married in gave us paperwork with a bunch of rules, one of which was that flower girls and ring bearers had to be at least 7 years old). My sweet cousins were only 4 and 6, but no one ever asked me how old they were, and I never said, and on the day of the wedding they showed up and did their job perfectly and it didn’t matter at all. 

Post # 11
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MarieeToBee:  This amazes me because every Catholic Parish I’ve ever gone to has gone out of their way to include Children!  Altar Servers are generally about 10 years old (definitely still children), and on specially occasions Children are often asked to follow the priest as he sprinkles Holy Water, or light the advent calendar, etc.

I can understand not wanting children under 4 walking up the aisle as they can be unpredictable in a group of unfamilar faces (running off to say hi, refusing to walk because they’re scared, running into the Sanctuary…), but banning all children seems wrong to me.  They’re a vital part of the community!

Post # 12
24 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

whoever said the WHOLE CHURCH was banning children in weddings was just silly and I don’t think the “whole church” means what she thinks it means….

it might be an individual parish’s decision, which I guess I can understand. we’re not having littles be a part of the walking down the aisle and standing portion of the ceremony, but three of my little cousins are reading (11 year old twins and a 9 year old). I think people just need to be realistic on how well (or not…) behaved they kidlets are!

Post # 13
68 posts
Worker bee

Considering that a major point of getting married is procreation, I don’t see the Church backing this up-it’s probably just the one church.

Post # 14
2522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My guess is they aren’t allowed to participate in the wedding ceremony at that particular parish.  Some priests aren’t very fond of children in weddings (they can attend) but the disturbance can throw a priest off.  Parishes are pretty much allowed to set many of their own rules.  Children would still be allowed to attend the wedding.

For example, my parish has a rule about no confetti, balloons, seeds, etc.  They also have rules regarding how you can attach floral arrangements to the pews.  The previous parish I was considering being married at had a no-decorating policy if I remember correctly.  It’s really up to individual parishes.  So far, none of the rules bother me.  You have to understand, it was probably more than one instance where this caused the priest to make changes.  We aren’t having a flower girl/ring bearer so it definitely wouldn’t be a problem for us.  They serve no purpose other than to look adorable.

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