(Closed) No children at reception?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I plan on doing the same thing and I’m not worried. I’ve heard some people even appreciate that it’s a night away just for the parents so they can enjoy the wedding, and my friends/guests are discussing sharing a babysitter for out of towners. I’m planning on putting “we have reserved # seats” on the rsvp so they know there aren’t enough invites for their kids. It’s your wedding day, you should enjoy it! 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We had no children at our wedding.. it didn’t go over so well and caused some animosity. But you know what? The family members who were upset are people who I do not care to have a relationship with and the ones who refused to attend were not missed. I will never understand why it’s so hard to quietly decline an invite if you can’t find a sitter.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We did the same thing and had no bad comments!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

 I can’t imagine paying $100+ for a 6 course meal for an 8 year old!

If there are grumblings about this, honestly I could care less. It is something I feel pretty strongly about.

 

Post # 7
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Newbee

My sister is currently going through the same problem… Long story short, our cousin has a little girl who is 11 and she is going to be a flower girl/ring bearer/bridesmaid kinda thing… (she’s a perfect little angel, so sweet & happy). My cousin has been in a long term relationship (9years) with someone who has a little girl who is 9. My family is not very fond of the girlfriend’s child… (Bratty spoilt little child). On the invites said “Regret, no children”. So this has also caused problems with them as well… The girlfriend has kinda taken my cousin’s child “under her wing” and seems to claim her as her own… (Which really frustrates me).

So now my sister has had to invite the little bratty one…. Such dramaz!!!!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@BlondeBride090211:

I am as well for budget reasons. Everyone in the family who had children I contacted before and let them know. They were happy to have a night away from their children. Some did bulk, but these are the ones who do not watch their hellions at family get togethers anyhow! I would let your guests know ahead of time

For our out of town guests we are trying to find a babysitter since they are coming over 12 hours away.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m having an adult only reception. I ddin’t limit it at an age, I specified no children, meaning my cousin’s kids are not invited, regardless of age (even though the oldest is only 15). I addressed the envelopes to the parents and on the invite itself, at the bottom, it says “adult ceremony and reception”.

I haven’t heard any comments either directly, or indirectly, so i’m not too concerned about it. I have a large family, and I’m not paying for an extra 25 kids that I barely see.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re having an adults only wedding and only including the kids in our Bridal Party or anyone Out of Town. A number of our guests have children and we have not heard a single complaint. We were actually expecting to have an issue with FI’s brother and wife since they’re having their first baby a few weeks before our wedding. We’ll love our new niece or nephew but he/she is not invited to our wedding. Without even discussing this with FBIL/FSIL, they mentioned how her parents will be coming out to watch the baby. Crisis averted!

To be honest, the parents that make a huge friggin’ deal over bringing their kids blows my mind. I NEVER attended weddings with my parents when I was younger unless I was in the bridal party and guess what? NOT A BIG DEAL. The fact that this whole thing is even such a hot topic is ridiculous. Unless you’re paying for said wedding, you have absolutely no say in what the bride and groom choose. If your kids aren’t invited then they obviously have their reasons. I’m sure most people would love to be able to include your kiddos but sometimes it’s not possible. If you refuse to leave little Suzy with a sitter then I’m sorry but you’re going to miss a great wedding.

 

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

OUR INFORMATION SAYS….  LATTER PART OF THE RECEPTION WILL BE “GROWN AND SEXY”-  ADULTS ONLY.  I ALSO PUT THE NUMBER OF SEATS THAT ARE BEING RESERVED FOR THE GUESTS. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I will never understand why this is such a hot topic. Yes, kids are adorable….and I always smile when I see a little chubby baby chilling out in their stroller…..but they don’t belong at an evening wedding where it is very expensive. To that end, I also have no problem calling up the rude person who added their kid to my guest list….oh yes, it’s happened….2 of 2 will be attending turns into 3 of 3…..yeah, le sigh.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think its the best choice. Kids don’t even appreciate weddings.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You shouldnt be worried at all. It is your choice. The guests that have kids but really want to be with you on that special day, will make all necessary arrangements to be there. Don’t even worry about it. If someone gets offended, then its probably better if they dont go at all.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Just as long as you make it clear that your wedding is an adults only event, I don’t think you should worry.

I have a five year old son.  I realize that some events aren’t appropriate for children.  Parents that baulk at that need to get some perspective.

I have nearly 30 children coming to our wedding in April 2012. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You could add a line at the bottom of your invitations or an incert card that says something nice like “We wish your children sweet dreams on our wedding night” that is what I am planning to do. You should definitly help out of town guests find responsible babysitting or allow only children of out of town guests to go to the wedding.

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