- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
So, I know many of you are having the same problems, but sometimes personalized advice is most helpful. My Future Mother-In-Law is driving me crazy. We got along quite well before this whole wedding stuff started. When my fiance decided to propose was the time when things got a little strange.
The most recent issue has been the whole “children at the wedding thing.” In my family, kids were most often not invited to weddings. For the most part, there are often just too many kids. On my father’s side alone there are over 25 kids. These are not well-behaved kids either. They are pre-teens who are already experimenting with drugs and alcohol- awesome. Not people I want at the wedding. My fiance’s side has considerably fewer children and on his side children are always invited to the wedding. Because of the situation on my side however, I have chosen not to have children at the wedding. This has sent my Future Mother-In-Law into crazy rants including saying that she doesn’t feel like she should come and that it doesn’t sound like I even want any of her family there. I feel like I’m dealing with a teenage girl. I’ve tried explaining the situation to her multiple times, but to no avail. My fiance doesn’t really want to get involved in any of this. On top of it all, in addition to children, she keeps trying to add guests to the guest list and has not contributed anything.
She has now just bought her plane tickets to the wedding (so she is coming), but instead of coming a few days out, she is coming only the day before, after we had planned to have the rehearsal dinner. I just don’t know what to do anymore. She won’t respond to my emails or calls or even to her son’s calls.
Does anyone have any advice?